My rishta ended things recently but he wants to remain friends with me. I cant understand why.
I dont prefer to stay friends with him but he messages me sometimes that he misses me and stuff. I dont respond when he messages me such things.
What would you do?
Re: Would you stay friends with your broken rishta?
hmm yeah dnt message him coz it will hurt after ...
Re: Would you stay friends with your broken rishta?
My rishta ended things recently but he wants to remain friends with me. I cant understand why.
I dont prefer to stay friends with him but he messages me sometimes that he misses me and stuff. I dont respond when he messages me such things.
What would you do?
Dont ignore the message, Reply back, explaining in detail your thoughts and what not
If Rishta is not there, no further value can be added between you through friendship
Sorry to hear that anyway
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Do you still have feelings for him? If so then I would not keep in touch with him because he'll never let you move on. Why did he break the rista if he says he misses you? I hope he's not just playing with your emotions....I would stay away but then again I don't know the specifics of your relationship with him.
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like i said before..it,s better to move on...no strings attached.
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No.
Re: Would you stay friends with your broken rishta?
My rishta ended things recently but he wants to remain friends with me. I cant understand why.
I dont prefer to stay friends with him but he messages me sometimes that he misses me and stuff. I dont respond when he messages me such things.
What would you do?
so you are not good nuff for him as a spouse but good nuff for him as a friend?
that is what he is basically saying.
how do you react to that.
would he have been comfortable if you were friends with some former potential rishta of yours?
Re: Would you stay friends with your broken rishta?
My rishta ended things recently but he wants to remain friends with me. I cant understand why.
I dont prefer to stay friends with him but he messages me sometimes that he misses me and stuff. I dont respond when he messages me such things.
What would you do?
Im sorry to hear about this, Munni.
Please change your number. If he lacks spine to stand up for you at this point, trust me, you are better of with a broken rishta. He is emotionally confused as rest of the crowd out there. Protect yourself and end all communication.
Im sorry to add this..... But our desi men are better in staying with goris they have known than "us". Our part is much more complicated. Ive seen it countless times and also my ex was a sweet heart in helping out his formers girl friends etc.
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so you are not good nuff for him as a spouse but good nuff for him as a friend?
that is what he is basically saying.
how do you react to that.
would he have been comfortable if you were friends with some former potential rishta of yours?
You have said it the best way possible, Frauds. Thumbs up!
Re: Would you stay friends with your broken rishta?
My rishta ended things recently but he wants to remain friends with me. I cant understand why.
I dont prefer to stay friends with him but he messages me sometimes that he misses me and stuff. I dont respond when he messages me such things.
What would you do?
poor boy.
What a typical girly thread.
How come girls alway end up being so innocent?? Remmber when you were charming him with you beauty?? Thats why he has trouble getting over you.
Plus probably he didn't end it so a little ego could be involved too.
Re: Would you stay friends with your broken rishta?
My rishta ended things recently but he wants to remain friends with me. I cant understand why.
I dont prefer to stay friends with him but he messages me sometimes that he misses me and stuff. I dont respond when he messages me such things.
What would you do?
My motto was "yeh nahi to woh sahi woh nahi to koi or sahi"...I know it sounds crude(and I used to joke abt it:cb) but thats the way the arranged marraige stuff works in our culture. I always advice not to get emotionally involved with a potential rishta..its just blurs your vision.One thing is that its so much better that it ended now and the problems arose ...saves one from the bigger heartache later on.
Dont stay "friends" with him..just dont !.As I recall wasnt he a religious guy..How does that play into the religious view?..the "remaing friends" deal?
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Munni, look at it as a positive though,you know why? because if this guy was not going to appreciate you for you, then its better that you know now and he is out of your life rather than getting married and then him not treating you right.
Dont let him mess with your head,
oh, and btw, be ready if he comes back 3 weeks later and says he made a mistake cutting things off and he wants to get back together.
seen it many times, guys or girls end things, want to stay friends, want to get back together, then say no, the decision to part ways was right and it was loneliness or whatever that brought them back. and the person who is letting this person in and out of their life is the one who gets messed up emotionally/mentally in a royal way, but mr/Ms wishy washy often have zero idea of what stress they are causing.
My view always was, ...you walk away, its a one way street. n u-turns.
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it does hurt but change ur number...n Move On!
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Munni suppose if it was you who broke it off because after being with him for a while you realized he's not who you want, and the guy tried really hard to make things work but even then you became adamant to break it off. Would it be different if even then he wants to remain friends? smile
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Im not wondering why he ended it. He told me why. I'm wondering why he still emails me that he misses me and other such things. I mean I just dont understand that.
My beauty isnt what is keeping him in touch with me. We have only been talking on the phone so far.
poor boy.
What a typical girly thread.
How come girls alway end up being so innocent?? Remmber when you were charming him with you beauty?? Thats why he has trouble getting over you.
Plus probably he didn't end it so a little ego could be involved too.
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^ Munni, just move on yaara. If he did not marry you, he should not get upset when you don't talk to him.
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He sounds like having self esteem issues...cant live with or without em sort...sorry if Im being judgemental..but just imagine the later stage if he gets upset like this in the beginning...
Just ask him directly why he wants to remain"friends"...waise dont let the emotions and his pressuring you into remaining friends by emailing/calling/texting you...dont feel obligated ..just let it be and leave the rest on Allah mian
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Fraudia, its interesting you say that because he told me once that if I ever call it off, that is it, he will never speak to me again.
Ask, yeah I dont want any pressure and I feel after a few weeks he will come to some realization himself. Perphaps its difficult for him since he hasnt done this before, I dont know.
Cheegum, if I am the one calling it off, which I have in the past, I dont mind remaining friends with the person. Unless I see that they are trying to get back together with me which will only hurt them more in the long run.