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^ Very positive thinking. :k:
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Some people can do it - come from pakistan and make themselves - its rare. I know someone who was a lawyer there and here works in a Bakery.
He has been here for what 7 years now, so no more law for him.
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LOL about the Lawyer turned baker…
Agar kisee ko hammara kisa maloom hogaye tho Qiyamath hojayegee… 
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There is no love in the equation. Its the whole cousin marriage deal. He's stable in Pakistan (his family is!) but he's expected to leave Pakistan after marriage and live in the United States.
So is not having an education going to be a REALLY big problem trying to make a living here?
If he really was stable, he wouldn't want to move to the west to work a blue collar job for the rest of his life. And I don't think someone who's never lived in the West can settle in and set up a good business in a jiffy, it would take years before he could establish himself.
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In all honesty - yes it will be.
:k:
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I would very much like to quote Bulleh Shah here but none of you will get it so yeah… Go for the rich guy 
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I did, and so I believe it's possible. However it varies in each situation, how well do you know the guy? Do you know if he'll be able to support you? Can you have an intellectual conversation with him, and will you be ok with the way the desi community see's the two of you? If so, and you know you can handle it, then go for it. :)
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The question is invalid/incomplete unless the girl's education and character is placed side by side.
All those who comment negative against a non-college graduate but nice guy may have a point but her education and niceness should match or be considered too.
Besides, a nice man one who has no college education is still better than not so nice but highly educated.
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How do you know none of us will get it? Give it a try.
Girl is born and bred in Germany, now in States. Is an engineering student and not as good looking as the guy.
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If he really was stable, he wouldn't want to move to the west to work a blue collar job for the rest of his life. And I don't think someone who's never lived in the West can settle in and set up a good business in a jiffy, it would take years before he could establish himself.
Its not him who wants to move to the west, its sort of expected. The mother has no other children and the husband passed away few years ago, she wants the daughter to stay nearby.
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Does he have anyone that will help him get on his feet in the States or is it expected that the girl's family will do that?
If you take him just as he is and try to consider his prospects in the States...unless he is going to go into business (where will the capital come from for business?)...it looks like he will start from scratch. Scratch would mean either work small jobs which dont pay much or start school from the bottom and work his way up.
The issue is...
Are you willing to deal with someone who has so much ground to cover? If you can do it, great. If not, be upfront and get out of it.
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has no college education? But is from a very good family, really good looking and overall a very decent person?
No. I don't think so.
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The question is invalid/incomplete unless the girl's education and character is placed side by side.
All those who comment negative against a non-college graduate but nice guy may have a point but her education and niceness should match or be considered too.
Besides, a nice man one who has no college education is still better than not so nice but highly educated.
The question is for "you" so you answer based upon your own qualifications.
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I would say yes. Why not? If he is able to provide for you and he's a good person, why does his education matter. Plus im currently in University and a lot of people have returned to school because they are unable to find employment with their degree and education. So having an education doesn't mean your "stable" I know in Pakistan it's important to be educated to get a job, but here you have more options then just going into post secondary education. I don't think it's fair to judge someone's family character if they are not as educated as you'd like them to be.
Plus, would you rather marry a Doctor who is a complete ass and beats you everyday after dinner, or a decent guy who provides enough and treats you well, though that is another disscussion.
I have to agree with you completely. I have been in school for longg time just to be what i wanted to be. And been through hell to gain what i wanted to gain. This piece of paper what we call a bach. degree nowadays doesn't count for anything anymore except for 35k to 45k jobs maximum. Masters? even people with masters are struggling to find jobs..especially freshly graduates. And at the end of the day what matter is..whether a person is decent and is financially stable. I do know that girls look for emotional and financial security. Which obviously is fair, however, like above poster said that even he is engineer, doctor or some CEO... he could still lack manners and behavior toward his wife or anybody around him. That is why i always stressed that go for someone with good character. And somebody who really cares about his family and work hard to earn decent and halal money. It goes longer!. Having said that..i am just glad to have 3 days off!.
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The question is invalid/incomplete unless the girl's education and character is placed side by side.
All those who comment negative against a non-college graduate but nice guy may have a point but her education and niceness should match or be considered too.
Besides, a nice man one who has no college education is still better than not so nice but highly educated.
I agree!
No offence to anyone, but Pakistani education doesn't really count for much in Canada and States anyways. I know countless people who had a great career in Pakistan and now do low-end jobs here, so whose to say that if he was educated he would have a good job here. He would have to go through schooling again to have his degree/diploma accepted.
It won't be easy that he doesn't have a field but coming to a new country he'll have to start some where. I think if he's a good person, he'll try his best to take care of his wife by any means possible. education is not a be all, end all these days.
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I actually feel that unlike in many other countries, in the US you can be very successful without a college education, as long as you are intelligent, a hard worker, and find your niche. For me, the concern is more about interactions between husband and wife, a certain style and type of conversation and way to approach things that comes from having a similar education. But of course, it's not THE most important deciding factor. But it is important.