Would you marry him knowing he had cancer?

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:chai:

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for all the 'maybe's" i m getting, thank you. makes me a little happy to know that there is hope for my younger brother :)

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^ aww rabia :slight_smile: my prayers and best wishes for your bro! :flowers:

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Only a great selfless woman would do so. So few of them out there but there are a few.

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Yes, I would definately consider him.

Rabia, there is definately hope for your brother. Last year, due to certain symptoms....I needed to go through a procedure and get a biopsy done. The symptoms indicated there was a possibility of cancer. The night before the biopsy, my BF and I were talking about "what if" it turned out to be cancer. I actually told my BF that if he did not want to marry me if it turned out to be cancer...I would understand and not blame him. My desi BF told me that he would never do that. He said if it was cancer...he would still marry me....we would never have kids and spend our lives travelling the world like we always talked about.

I had the procedure next day. BF was actually in the room with me while I was under general (he's a M.D. and works at the same hospital). We waited several days for the biopsy results to come back and thankfully...it was not cancer. HOWEVER.....the doctor himself told me that I would need to have the same procedure done probably every other year or so for the rest of my life to make sure it doesn't turn into cancer. BF, being a M.D., was VERY well aware of the high risk I'll be in for the rest of my life.

And knowing all this....4 months later...he proposed to me and we're planning our wedding for next Spring. So yea....there's no reason for your brother (or anyone else in the family) to give up. When he finds the "right person", she will stick by him through the good times....and the bad.

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you missed out the other extreme

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Rabia: Marriage is lifelong commitment and no one can guarantee the life of anyone. I will urge you to keep all matter open and clean so nobody could turn it into blame game.

may Allah grants shifa to your brother. Aameen.

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Aameen

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:hugz:

If I fell in love, nothing would stop me from being with him…cancer or no cancer.

There is no guarantee of life…not even that of healthy people.

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If he met other requirements of what I wanted from a husband...sure.

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I would if I loved him or liked him and felt like he is the one. Sometimes few years of memories are really worth a lifetime. I would love to spend a good time with a good person who makes me a stronger person as opposed to a jerk who may live long but may make my life into a living hell.

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It's not an act of nobility or selflessness or pity for the person choosing to marry someone suffering from or recovering from a critical illness. There is something (and I hesitate to use the word) "selfish" in the act.

Now hold your horses - in this specific case I define selfish as being something one does to please oneself as opposed to it meaning not caring about others. In saying yes to such a relationship, it's because the person is so dear and vital to you that you can't imagine not spending your life with this person, no matter how long or short a time they have with you.

Hula's comment below captures the sentiment pretty accurately:

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Yes, if I loved him/already had a strong emotional bond with him..

Love marriage - yes

Arranged marriage - prob no

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its better to have love and lost than not have loved at all.

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No

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If he's rich, awww yeeaaa.

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loss isnt a laughing matter.

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Peace

I think there are two kinds of women here such difference will determine their decision on this matter.

a) Those who look at marriage as a means to serve their interests
b) Those who look at marriage as a means to give or offer love and support to another

Most women will be both a) and b), but a) will be more in some and b) will be dominant in others ... that determines the decision they will take ... a) being a "no" and b) being a "yes".

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peace psyah

kafi general overview diya hay aapne? jawab toh nahi

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I gave a jawab ... First of all I'm not a single lady ... but I feel there is a pattern in why some women will say yes and others will say no ... it is because those who say yes will be because they are the type of lady who sees marriage as something "they give" and other women see marriage as something "they get" - who are likely to say no.