who has to rebuild himself here, meaning, he wont have a job once he comes here to be with you? (so like marrying a woman and bringing her over, but genders are reversed).
Let’s say for argument’s sake that you’re working, and/or have money from whatever means and the two of you can afford to deal with the haul of the guy setting himself up here (education, new job, etc).
I bring up this topic because I’m observing some of the comments of women swooning in another thread over a nurse anesthesist and the idea he can make 130 K.
Is it really all about the $$ at the end of the day for women?
PCG, I think one should consider how driven the gentleman in question is. If he's quite driven and works hard and is willing to work and study, there shouldn't be any issue (assuming everything else is alright). If he isn't able to work, which is sometimes the case on account of immigration reasons, he should be willing to help around the house. Even in the best of scenarios where the gentleman does the above, this may require a bit of patience though.
However, if he is the sort who believes that any job outside of his field is beneath him and also feels that helping around the house is beneath him and expects to be treated like a high school student ("you just worry about your studies"), then absolutely not. That said, I'm not sure how you would be able to distinguish between the two in an arranged setting as I assume people tell you what you want to hear when you ask them what their intentions in the process.
who has to rebuild himself here, meaning, he wont have a job once he comes here to be with you? (so like marrying a woman and bringing her over, but genders are reversed).
Let's say for argument's sake that you're working, and/or have money from whatever means and the two of you can afford to deal with the haul of the guy setting himself up here (education, new job, etc).
I bring up this topic because I'm observing some of the comments of women swooning in another thread over a nurse anesthesist and the idea he can make 130 K.
Is it really all about the $$ at the end of the day for women?
If you're talking my post, i didn't mean that all women go for money only. what i meant was IF someone is looking for a rich potential partner, then nursing can be superior to many other profession which don't pay nearly as much.
Do all women only care about $$? i don't think so. if that were too, no one would be married to low income guys! but thats not the case. other things matter too. but is money a big factor in marriage?I think for many people, it is. most people, especially in arranged marriages, want their daughter's husband to be well off and have a good education. most desis don't marry their daughters to guys who are struggling financially and not stable yet.
Debunking engineers because a nurse can make 130K in this age of doctor shortage and nurses being allowed to play doctor is pretty insulting.
I'd marry a smart guy who can give wisdom and knowledge to his kids, and a humbled good natured engineer is much better than an arrogant lazy nurse who is into the cash and not into enlightening himself about human health.
Debunking engineers because a nurse can make 130K in this age of doctor shortage and nurses being allowed to play doctor is pretty insulting.
I did not debunk engineers, simply stated that a nurse anesthetists earns more than them. how is that debunking? I am not a doctor or a nurse but as far as i know, NP's have many years of education as well. PA's are also practicing medicine and are allowed to see patients. how is that insulting?
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whos an arrogant lazy nurse? ALL i mentioned was the salary difference between the 2.
MANY women choose engineers because they make more money than some other professions.
many desis look down upon male nurses but would pick an engineer over them? how is that not superficial?
Debunking engineers because a nurse can make 130K in this age of doctor shortage and nurses being allowed to play doctor is pretty insulting.
I'd marry a smart guy who can give wisdom and knowledge to his kids, and a humbled good natured engineer is much better than an arrogant lazy nurse who is into the cash and not into enlightening himself about human health.
I don't know what the health system is like in the United States but I can very much assure you that in Britain no one is allowed to "play doctor." I know loads of nurses and physician's associates (PAs) who work as hard as doctors and are just as important to their professions and in fact, are the ones look after patients on a regular basis. Many work 15+ hour days. Arrogant and lazy? I think not. With all due respect, just because Desis worship doctors and view them as the end all, be all, it doesn't mean that the rest of the bloody world does or that other medical professionals are beneath them.
You stated that bella88's comment was insulting yet you don't find it insulting to imply that nurses are people who couldn't make it as doctors and are only in their profession for the money?
You missed my point. Your viewpoint shows how women (desi) value income over education/knowledge. It is all about $ at the end of the day for women. Hence my post - would a girl take a guy from Pakistan.
Even the replies suggest they would only take the guy if they view him as an investment - if he's got what it takes to be successful in another country and it is expected that he'll catch up in terms of education/job and soon be making $$. If he's an average guy with an average job in Pakistan with an average education, would the excitement to take a guy from Pakistan be less?
You missed my point. Your viewpoint shows how women (desi) value income over education/knowledge. It is all about $ at the end of the day for women. Hence my post - would a girl take a guy from Pakistan.
Even the replies suggest they would only take the guy if they view him as an investment - if he's got what it takes to be successful in another country and it is expected that he'll catch up in terms of education/job and soon be making $$. If he's an average guy with an average job in Pakistan with an average education, would the excitement to take a guy from Pakistan be less?
^I stated that it is insulting to imply that nurses are people who couldn't make it as doctors and are only in their profession for the money. How does that demonstrate that women value income over education?
Secondly, if you read my comment, I stated that whether or not I would marry a guy from back home (Afghanistan, in my case) would depend on how driven and hardworking the guy was. This has nothing to do with money but rather, the fact that growing up, I saw my parents and numerous other people (many of whom were refugees, not ordinary immigrants) work extremely hard (as in work AND study AND help out around the house) and quite frankly, I could never respect a guy that was not up to their calibre.
Many women value money and many women don't. who says it's about $ for every woman? i simply stated than it does happen, not that everyone does it. and not only desi women either, and not even just women, sometimes MEN also want women to have the potential to make alot of money. BTW, nurses also have many years of education, i don't know where you got the idea that they are less smarter or work less harder than engineers.
It's not hard to get into nursing school. Yes they work hard, but their hours are great. They're some of the most relaxed and well rested people ever. Great folks, no doubt, but they do not have grad school kind of pressure on them.
It's not hard to get into nursing school. Yes they work hard, but *their hours are great. **They're some of the most relaxed and well rested people ever. ***Great folks, no doubt, but they do not have grad school kind of pressure on them.
You're joking, right? I guess you're not aware of the nursing shortage.
