unless the guy is ashamed of it because he realized he has done a wrong thing *islamically then i am fine. other then that i think if he has done adultery once then he can do it again once he is married too. i don’t think it’s practical to expect someone change just because he is married.
i am very confused about your comment sara, i am assuming you are saying it jokingly and you are actually married??
the reason i raised this discussion here is because i am a very conservative person. religion means a big deal to me. i can not imagine to live my life with someone who has committed gunnah-e-kabreera. if marriage means mutual understanding and co-operation as you mentioned, i don’t think i can ever develop understand with that guy or agree to co-operate with him at all.
beside that i think there are countless things with being “non-virgin” (without marriage) but i am don’t want to go over them here because the people who see those things wouldn’t do it, and the people who don’t see them has already done it. but for me, all i care about is that i am a muslim and ALLAHTALA doesn’t allow it. and that’s all i care about.