Maham
August 29, 2010, 7:51am
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Re: Would you live with your in-laws or separately?
Maham- I see where you are coming from but about the fact that you have given them so many chances, day after day you try to please them, and do as they wish but in the end it never makes them happy. I am speaking form own experience but when we go to Pak i don’t mind looking after the house or cleaning, cooking etc cos that is what is expected of me i give MIL everything she wants and even at night if she is complaining of her aching feet i gently massage them for her but she is NEVER happy i have delat with a lot from her, verbal abuse, her throwing things at me when i disagree or voice my own opinions. My grandma and grandad, are in pak and I can’t even go to see them becasue somehow on the day she always ends up ill or says she will miss her grandkids too much. I have given everything for the past 4 years so much that it has taken a toll on me but again i compromise probably cos i am weak lol but I want to able to live in harmony with her but sadly in my situation that is not the case.
Han tu yar, who said in your case you need to live with yr in-laws. Nobody is mad enought to tolerate abuse and disrespect at hands of anybody at all. Just always remember, you are the best judge here.