Re: Would you let your kids have a ‘relationship’ before marriage?
ASA. Bro, I have to correct you. The Prophet Muhammad (saw) NEVER said that you cannot speak with the opposite gender before marriage!! You have to lower your gaze, and yes you can look only once, but if you are working at a bazaar and a woman walks up to you to buy some fruit, is she not allowed to ask you questions? This is even explained in hadith Al-Bukhari!! He has taught us to always be modest and sincere in the way we carry ourselves, and that even if we are interested in someone, flirting will only lead you to bad thoughts and trouble, so your conversations are supposed to be very polite and not about any idle and useless chit-chat.
If you are interested in a woman, you are indeed allowed to approach her yourself and ask for her hand (although nowadays most women would get freaked out by that), so scholars say it is generally a better idea to have a sister, mother, aunt or another female family member (even a wife of your friend) to approach the woman and ask.
Please read hadith Al-Bukhari, brother. It is important that we understand these things and clear up these small misconceptions.
Salaam.