This is for all the ‘parents’ out here…
Would you allow your girls/boys to enter into relationships so that they can find the ‘right’ one? and would you accept ‘whatever’ they chose?
Did you have relationship(s)/done dating before marrying yourself?
Re: Would you let your kids have a 'relationship' before marriage?
When the s/he is ready to be married, I would allow her/him to go out and meet with someone in order to find a suitable spouse. But I would not want her/him dating for fun alone.
Re: Would you let your kids have a 'relationship' before marriage?
No
Re: Would you let your kids have a 'relationship' before marriage?
When the s/he is ready to be married, I would allow her/him to go out and meet with someone in order to find a suitable spouse. But I would not want her/him dating for fun alone.
^This.
Re: Would you let your kids have a 'relationship' before marriage?
When the s/he is ready to be married, I would allow her/him to go out and meet with someone in order to find a suitable spouse. But I would not want her/him dating for fun alone.
what would this going 'out' and 'meeting' constitute??i mean what would they be allowed to do?
Re: Would you let your kids have a 'relationship' before marriage?
^Go out to dinner, movies, bowling, shows, hang out with friends, etc.
Re: Would you let your kids have a ‘relationship’ before marriage?
I get scared of it all…no dating for my kids. 
Re: Would you let your kids have a 'relationship' before marriage?
^haha
well i dont think this is something you can stop in the next generation. (its already in our generation). I would make it clear that if your not serious then no dating :P i think that should acceptable for both me and my kid..
Also religion is important, so would want a muslim damaad ya bahu hahaha... we'll c what happens!
Re: Would you let your kids have a 'relationship' before marriage?
no dating, but i would like to introduce the girls to my son. and let them get to know each other via family get togethers, phone calls or in a group hang out. or if my kid likes a girl in his college, he should come to me and let me know what his intensions are. and i am aware whats going on. then its ok. but no clubbing or double dating for my kids. inshallah.
Re: Would you let your kids have a 'relationship' before marriage?
Whether I allow or don't allow, my goal is to keep my expectations from my kids at about the same level (or lower) than I have had of myself when I went through their age. I personally don't like it when parents don't do that although I know it's only 'human'.
Re: Would you let your kids have a 'relationship' before marriage?
Yes. Break the chains of backwardness at all points.
Re: Would you let your kids have a 'relationship' before marriage?
I recognize how dating relationships can enhance a person's psychological well-being, can teach them about themselves and skills that they will need to develop sooner or later.
That being said, it is also necessary to assess a person's emotional maturity level before they start dating.
So, if my kids are emotionally mature (according to me, haha!), I will let them. I would hope that I'd be the kind of mom who would guide them through the ups and downs of these relationships, without taking away their space.
Re: Would you let your kids have a 'relationship' before marriage?
how would you mature parents even know your kids are dating? seeing from your own generation and group of people you hang out with now, do you really expect your kids to be satti savatris and mr. gentleman and wait for their parents to set them up once they turn 21-whatever age? instead of creating an outright ban, shouldn't it be better to talk to the kids and tell them look, here is the deal. this is what i've planned for you, what do you think. then you can put on the burka on them and ban dating if they don't abide.
Re: Would you let your kids have a 'relationship' before marriage?
Yeah, what Khumar bhai said.
Plus, how many of us asked our parents' permission when we started dating? Like it or not, they WILL date and there is nothing you can do about it.
Re: Would you let your kids have a 'relationship' before marriage?
i'm not a parent, not even married (yet ;)) but imo i wouldnt let my children date...not until they were 21? BUT as mentioned in this thread...they aren't really going to come and ask our permission are they? i think you can just hope that you raised your children right and that the decisions they make are the right ones.
Re: Would you let your kids have a 'relationship' before marriage?
When the s/he is ready to be married, I would allow her/him to go out and meet with someone in order to find a suitable spouse. But I would not want her/him dating for fun alone.
this
Re: Would you let your kids have a 'relationship' before marriage?
Unless you plan on following them 24/7, you aren't going to be able to stop them. You can do your best to instill your values and ideals into them, but then at some point it's going to be up to them to do what they feel is correct. Or you can keep them locked up in the basement. :D
Re: Would you let your kids have a 'relationship' before marriage?
I am planning on following my kids around 24/7
Re: Would you let your kids have a ‘relationship’ before marriage?
No nt at all , Nvr ever, no dating for my kids…
Re: Would you let your kids have a 'relationship' before marriage?
I am planning on following my kids around 24/7
making sure they are not wasting time on sites like GS :)