Would you let your kids have a 'relationship' before marriage?

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Re: Would you let your kids have a ‘relationship’ before marriage?

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there would be no such discussion if we knew the rightful way to handle this issue…which is sticking to the deen…it is haram to have any kind of contact with a non-mahram…teaching deen to children right from the start would IA, make it so easier for them to choose the right thing, which is avoiding any kind of contact with non-mahram…a boy and a girl are allowed to look at each other once (in presence of their family) for the purpose of marraige…this much is allowed in islam…anything beyond that is haraam…our parents, grand parents and all those older generations used to have arranged marriages which worked just fine…why are we quitting the right way and choosing to copy the west?There is no concept of “dating” in islam…nowhere in the holy Quran has this concept been approved…The holy Quran and our prophet’s life is in front of us to guide as to how we should conduct ourselves for our success in this life and the hereafter…then why are we lost and trying to find solutions on our own?Modern people these days explain it as "getting to know each other"theory…is there a surity that the time that a boy and a girl spend before marriage “in getting to know each other” will ensure that they would get along for the rest of their lives?If so…then why is the divorce rate so high in western countries like U.S ,where goras actually have sex and kids during "the getting to know each other "time…how much more can a boy and girl know each other beyond this stage? yet after all this tamasha when marriages do take place most of them end up in a divorce…the divorce rate is incredibly high in western countries…when some people say “I would let my kid meet the girl/boy in gatherings, let them go for a movie together, meet in a mall etc but not more than that” then how can you actually draw a line, which will not let the children cross their limits?after all its human nature to want to go further…how do you stop that?

In islam there is no concept of free mingling of a boy and girl after the mangni…it is haram to even talk with the opposite sex before marriage forget about meeting them and having fun around. But our desi culture has left the deen way back Then we keep asking Allah to prevail peace when disasters take place in our homeland, we question why is it happening to our country?It is time we look at our deeds and fear Allah’s wrath.

I know everybody is entitled to their opinion…but I would IA teach my children the right way of deen and pray to Allah that my children stay on the right path, choose the right thing and abstain from anything that is not liked by Allah SWT.

Sorry for the length of the post…I am known as a superfluous writer I apologize for the inconvenience

Who says it’s haram to talk to a member of the opposite sex?