Re: Would you let your kids date?
Well Man, Sab se bari baat tao ye hai ke Islam does not allow any (sweet) talk b/w na mehrams.... Cuz it leads to many evils.....
Shaitaan works calmly and patiently, corrupting ur mind bit by bit.... please take the time to read the following story... I rest my case :)
*The Story of Burseesah *
There were three men from Bani Israel who were called to fight for the sake of Allah. They accepted the call, but they had concerns for their sister as she would be left behind with no-one to look after her. After some discussion, they agreed that the best place to leave her would be with the most trusted person in town.
This was a pious man called Burseesah, who lived in a sanctuary and devoted his entire life in the worship of Allah. They came to Burseesah and said to him, "O Burseesah. We know you to be a pious and trustworthy man. We have been enlisted to fight for the sake of Allah and we want to leave our sister with you. O Burseesah! We trust no one else in town except you. Please take care of our sister."
Burseesah immediately said, "A’UDHUBILLAH”! (I seek refuge in Allah) Get away from me! I have sworn to spend my time devoting it to the worship of Allah! I do not want to deal with these issues and be burdened with looking after someone"
The three men said to him, "O Burseesah! We have nowhere else to take her! We can’t leave her with anyone else and we don't trust anyone else. Please take care of our sister!"
Satan heard the discussion, and came to Burseesah. "Burseesah..." The waswaas [evil whisperings] began. "Burseesah if you don't look after her, she might be left with someone who is not trustworthy! You have to take this responsibility"
Burseesah listened and finally agreed to look after her. He told the brothers to leave her in a separate house so not to distract him from his acts of worship. They left her there, said goodbye and went to jihad.
Burseesah would continue his acts of worship as normal, and during the day he would leave food on his doorstep so the woman would have to leave the house to collect the food. This also ensured they never saw one another and Burseesah never even left his place of worship.
Time passed by.
Satan came to Burseesah.
"Burseesah...” he whispered, "You can't leave the food on your doorstep! As she is leaving the house someone might see her by herself. All alone and vulnerable and take advantage of her. Rather than her leave her house, you go to her house and drop off the food on her doorstep."
Burseesah made the decision that this was the right thing to do, and followed the bait that Satan masked in a cover of righteousness. So during the day Burseesah would leave his worship, leave his place of worship, go to the house and leave the food on her doorstep.
This happened for a while and with the trap just being set, Satan moved in for the next step.
"Burseesah..." the whispers came again. ”Burseesah...you are now leaving the food on her doorstep, but still this is not good. She still has to open the door and collect the food. Someone might still see her and she is so beautiful. She is VERY beautiful"
This servant of Allah, who never saw this woman started to be tempted by the whispers from Satan about her beauty.
"Burseesah, her beauty is intoxicating and if someone sees her they may try something. You have to leave the food INSIDE her house. You don't have to look at her. Just knock on the door, and hand her the food as she opens the door."
Burseesah saw no harm in this. After all, it would stop people from seeing her. More deception covered in righteousness.
So again, Burseesah would leave his worship, leave his place of worship, go to the house and knock on her door to hand her the food.
Time passed by again. Satan remained patient before executing his next plan.
Satan came again.
"Burseesah...you can’t leave this poor woman all alone without any company. No one is speaking to her. She's lonely Burseesah. Just talk to her. There’s no harm in saying salaam and asking how she is. You can talk to her from behind the door...you don’t have to see her...just talk from outside."
He liked the idea and when he would bring her the food he would talk to her behind the door while she was in her room. They would talk for hours every day and the relationship began to get stronger.
Satan found it easier and easier to drag him into the next step. "Burseesah.....Burseesah....you can't just sit behind the door. You know each other well enough to be in the same room now. Just sit in the same room and speak to her. You don't have to look at her. Just sit in the same room."
Burseesah began to follow the advice of Satan. Every time they met, the talk became more intimate as they began getting closer...and closer...and closer.
...He would hold her hand...
...The kiss came a few days later...
Eventually...they committed zina [fornication] with each other.
"Ohh what have I done" Burseesah said as he realized his mistake.
But the story did not end there.
From that night, the woman became pregnant. Nine months later she delivered a baby boy.
The familiar whispers started again as Satan flowed through Burseesah's veins like blood.
"Burseesah...when her brothers come back and find out their sister has a child in zina, you are going to be in trouble! There is only one way to solve this problem. Burseesah... you have to kill the baby! Get rid of the evidence!
Grief and anxiety ran through Burseesah's mind as he listened to the whispers of Satan. He did what he heard and killed the baby.
"Ohhhh Burseesah. Do you think this woman will keep this a secret after you killed her own child?? No. Burseesah... the only thing to do now is to kill her!"
Burseesah then killed the woman and buried both mother and child under the house and covered it with a rock.
The three brothers returned and went to greet their sister. She was nowhere to be found. They went to the house of Burseesah and asked him, "Where is our sister?"
"She has passed away" he said as he pointed to a fake grave. The brothers were saddened by the loss, and made du'a for her.
That night when they went to sleep, Satan came to them in their dreams and told them all what had happened.
"Burseesah has lied to you! Burseesah killed your sister! Burseesah committed zina with her! She is buried under the rock inside the house."
As they all woke up in the morning, and talked about their dream, they began relating the same dream and thought there must be some truth in it.
They first dug up the grave Burseesah pointed to and found no body. They stormed to Burseesah's house and demanded to know what had happened to their sister. One of them saw the rock in the house and uncovered it, where they saw their sister and her child.
"What has happened to our sister?" The eldest screamed. They forced Burseesah to disclose the secret of what happened and Burseesah told them everything.
Burseesah was taken to court where he confessed everything to the King. The King sentenced Burseesah to be executed. As they dragged him to his death, fear overcame Burseesah.
For the first time during this whole incident, Satan appeared before Burseesah and said to him, "Oh Burseesah! Listen! Look at me! I was the one who was whispering to you since this whole thing started! I am Satan!"
Burseesah's fear grew as the blade for his execution was brought!
"Now I can get you out of all this trouble. I was the one who put you in it, and I can get you out of it!"
"Oh Satan, what should I do?" Burseesah cried!
With an evil grin, Satan said, "Make sujood to me. I am Satan and I will save you! Bow down and prostrate to me!" Burseesah fell down in sujood to Satan and as soon as he did this, Satan ran away!
... and Burseesah was executed.
Who could ever imagine a servant of Allah making sujood to Satan!?
Imagine if Satan came to Burseesah at the beginning and said "Burseesah make sujood to me", would Burseesah do it? NO!
If Satan came to Burseesah at the beginning and said, "commit murder", would he do it? NO! If Satan came to Burseesah at the beginning and said, "commit zinaa", would he do it? NO!
But Satan knows the game! He's been playing his tricks since the time of Adam. Classical method of misleading people through step-by-step deception. This is how Satan pulls at your feet and deceives you. So even if something may SEEM to be like an insignificant sin / action, be careful. It might be the start of a trap.
Allah tells us “O you who believe! Do not follow the footsteps of the Satan, and whoever follows the footsteps of the Satan, then surely he bids the doing of indecency and evil” [24.21]
(Related by Ibn Taimiyah)
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