So let’s say you have a daughter, well educated and moderately religious, and she gets a rishta from a young Imam of a masjid…considering that he is an Aalim but without any other degree [as in non-Islamic degree such as MS, MBA, MD, etc.], comes from a known and good family, seems like a nice gentleman and all, would you consider the proposal or reject?
Discuss.
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If he had a non-Islamic degree as well I would have definitely considered him a lot more enthusiastically. I have high admiration and respect for Aalims and those who study Islam as a subject. But IMO another degree in any of the other majors such as banking, finance, medicine etc are much needed for a financial stability too. As it's our moral duty as parents to marry off our daughters to the best person in financial as well as religious terms.
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NO!
discussion is over.
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If she was only moderately religious the answer would be an absolute 'no.' What would happen when he starts telling her she must wear hijab etc?
The lack of non-Islamic degree would also be a huge negative.. unless he has a good stable income at the time of the proposal..
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Only if he is a good provider .
I know some imams from Pakistan who are Aalims and no other worldly degrees , but they own big businesses and some who own lots of property . Their families enjoy the life of luxury.
There are some imams in US and other countries who are high in demand in talking circuits and for fund raising events. They are materially well off although they do not have any of those worldly degrees.
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Hell NO!!!
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Hell NO!!!
yea ok Monk..point noted. Let's actually see other people's opinions too now :p
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If he had a non-Islamic degree as well I would have definitely considered him a lot more enthusiastically. I have high admiration and respect for Aalims and those who study Islam as a subject. But IMO another degree in any of the other majors such as banking, finance, medicine etc are much needed for a financial stability too. As it's our moral duty as parents to marry off our daughters to the best person in financial as well as religious terms.
What she said.
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yea ok Monk..point noted. Let's actually see other people's opinions too now :p
I am half disgusted half scared by the question.
I am going to take a break form GS for a little.
Bye
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Monk's got imamophobia
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if he is an Imam like we have in Pakistan then definetly NO. bcz mostly these kind of Imams have no true knowledge of Islam and r complete jahil.
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Monk's got imamophobia
That is understandable , A Monk and an Imam can never mix.
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I dont know, I dont think I could. I dont want someone who is ultra-religious for my daughter. And also, a lack of a formal education and a degree? Uh, no.
Toughie.
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well how does he (the imam) get his earnings?
i think if both the guy and the girl were very similar on religious matters and if they both have the same interest about spreading islam, islamic education, spending time in the masjid, then sure.
my parents dont have degrees, and neither do many of my cousins, but Alhumdulillah all of them are very successful in their field.
similar question: would you parents marry your daughter to someone who was active in Tablighi Jammat?
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janat ki deewar par char kr
mai nay aur shaitaan nay dekha ..
sahmi si ik hoor k peechay
wahshi mulla bhag rahay thay
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well how does he (the imam) get his earnings?
i think if both the guy and the girl were very similar on religious matters and if they both have the same interest about spreading islam, islamic education, spending time in the masjid, then sure.
my parents dont have degrees, and neither do many of my cousins, but Alhumdulillah all of them are very successful in their field.
similar question: would you parents marry your daughter to someone who was active in Tablighi Jammat?
Imam gets paid by the masjid...he gets a monthly salary. Usually Imams get a place to live as well...real close to the masjid. The pay depends on masjid funds so from what I've heard, the pay usually ranges from $2000-$4000 a month from what I've been told. Don't know if there's a chance for more.
Some Imams do have other sources of income as well...such as private tutoring, starting a business, wife also teaches at masjid...
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^ not bad.
if my daughter really wanted to, then I would see no problem in that.
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If he had a non-Islamic degree as well I would have definitely considered him a lot more enthusiastically. I have high admiration and respect for Aalims and those who study Islam as a subject. But IMO another degree in any of the other majors such as banking, finance, medicine etc are much needed for a financial stability too. As it's our moral duty as parents to marry off our daughters to the best person in financial as well as religious terms.
An Aalim degree requires a 8 years course. A Mufti, Mufassir or Muhaddis (equivalent to our PHd) requires even more years. Plus a true Aalim keeps learning just like a medical doctor whose "studentship" never stops. Its unfair to expect that an aalim should have a wordly degree too such as banking, finance, medicine. He will be aadha teetar, aadha batair kind of aalim. If fact such aalims are more dangerous than any other proper qualified aalims.
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SOmehow I think that an Imam would be more likely to take a 2nd wife than a non-Imam. For example, some widow could come up to him and cry for help...all of a sudden some emotions could rise in him and he being that godly person he is, decide to marry her as he is fully aware of his rights. Of course he'd take could care of both wives and all, but I'd not really like my kid to have that situation.
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^ that is the only drawback that I see.