would you intervene?

[parisbynight]

Re: would you intervene?

@amber19

I just wanted to know your guys input on a scenario a friend of mine was describing to me.

There’s a rishta in the works between 2 families that you personally don’t know well but your MIL is basically arranging a guy from their side to get married to a girl within the community. **You know for a fact that the guy who they are setting up doesn’t have a good character.. he’s unfaithful, has been in previous physical relationships only to dump the girl later on. You’ve heard, seen and also have proof of his behaviour. However your in-laws are arranging him to be fixed up with an innocent girl from a good family who has no idea about all of this. What would you do?

**Do you get involved and try to tell them he’s not good for her? Keeping in mind that this guy is from your in-laws side. Or do you just take a step back and let everything happen…?

was he married before and unfaithful?

it seems that you are having prejudices based on his past. These men also want to settled down at one point in their life, after calming down from all the ‘affairs’ . Who knows, he might have realized he was wasting his and the gfs time and now wants serious companionship. HE could be a terrible bf but an awesome husband.

Everyone should be given a chance! I dont imagine any family going for a rishta and bringing out the bad past or habits of their sons. It is for the girl side to find out. If he is that famous for his bad etiquettes in the community, then they will find out somehow.

I wouldnt want to interfere because it might be possible that the guy/mother already mentioned this to the girl in private. A possibility.

So yeah, in my opinion, you friend should kindly mind her own business.