If your husband/wife asked you if you wanted, to do a degree/or something similar in islamic studies, would you do it? how you would you react? if they think its because we need the education as well as the fact that your a studios, clever person who likes reading etc, and believes you could do it, what would you say…taking in the fact maybe you are a little interested, nothiong forced here.
I have a nonmuslim best friend, who as nice as she is, put a doubt in my mind when i told her. she said oh because your not relgious enough/dont wear scarfs on head/dont pray, so hes trying to get you to go and get that education yourself and wear a scarf/pray etc, rather than just tell you to do it, cos he knows you wont, so its another TACTIC....…
This made me defend my husband obviously, but it did cast a cloud in my mind, for what reasons he may be so encouraging …
its only a 1% negative thought, maybe over-analysing…
I would ask him to take the course with me. After all, if he thinks the education will benefit me and I'm clever etc.....then there's no reason why the education would not benefit him too. :) If the true reason behind his suggestion is to increase your knowledge....then why doesn't he increase his own knowledge too?
I would ask him to take the course with me. After all, if he thinks the education will benefit me and I'm clever etc.....then there's no reason why the education would not benefit him too. :) If the true reason behind his suggestion is to increase your knowledge....then why doesn't he increase his own knowledge too?
yeah he is saying i do the course and also teach him as i go along, because although he wants to do it too, he cant, because hes at work, i wont be, so no time for him and also the reason he suggested it was because i like reading alot, and am alot more studious than he is, and i have no knowledge of islamic stuff at all, while he does abit.
I have a nonmuslim best friend, who as nice as she is, put a doubt in my mind when i told her. she said oh because your not relgious enough/dont wear scarfs on head/dont pray, so hes trying to get you to go and get that education yourself and wear a scarf/pray etc, rather than just tell you to do it, cos he knows you wont, so its another TACTIC.........
yeah he is saying i do the course and also teach him as i go along, because although he wants to do it too, he cant, because hes at work, i wont be, so no time for him and also the reason he suggested it was because i like reading alot, and am alot more studious than he is, and i have no knowledge of islamic stuff at all, while he does abit.
Do you have kids?
I'm not sure why he feels that you actually need a "degree" in "Islamic Studies" in order to gain Islamic knowledge. Most Muslims don't have a degree in it!
Why can't you read Islamic books on your own or why can't the two of you attend some informal Islamic classes TOGETHER at the local masjid (if they offer any)? You can easily read books and other online information on your own and talk to him or other Muslims or the local Imam if you have any questions. I don't understand why he thinks that a formal classroom setting is needed in order for you to learn about Islam.
Also, you said that you have "no knowledge of islamic stuff at all" but "he does a bit". Well, so far has he taken the time and effort to teach you what he knows about Islam?
I'm not sure why he feels that you actually need a "degree" in "Islamic Studies" in order to gain Islamic knowledge. Most Muslims don't have a degree in it!
Why can't you read Islamic books on your own or why can't the two of you attend some informal Islamic classes TOGETHER at the local masjid (if they offer any)? You can easily read books and other online information on your own and talk to him or other Muslims or the local Imam if you have any questions. I don't understand why he thinks that a formal classroom setting is needed in order for you to learn about Islam.
Also, you said that you have "no knowledge of islamic stuff at all" but "he does a bit". Well, so far has he taken the time and effort to teach you what he knows about Islam?
Yes he had taken time and effort to teach me whatever he knows. he didnt exactly say a degree, but its something i would prefer than just go to my local mosque, because i dont really trust the local ones to tell me anything, i dnt know any women who teach there, and quite frankly they are not scholars either, there needs to be a formal syllabus....i dnt want someone to end up brainwashing me....and he knows that. if that the case, he could have just told me not to take proper classes and spend money, but go to my local mosque once a week and get it free, why would he suggest something like that if he was doing it for his own purposes...
I do have books and stuff, but its the same with any degree/course you do, you can have all the books, its not the same as actually going to a school. otherwise im sure there wouldnt be schools/universities at all, we can all sit at home and get the degree.
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He only suggested it by the way, because of MY interest in studying and exams and getting proffesional qualifications as opposed to just going to my local mosque here and there...
Sara - Reading your last 2 posts, I'm completely confused as to why you're having doubts about the reasons behind his encouragement. If this is primarily your idea and he's just being supportive, then go for it! :)
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I guess, well, its not my idea, its because i ask alot of questions regarding islam,and he doesnt know all the answers and he says agar tumhe interest hai then kisi kay pass jakey puchlo, someone qualified i mean.
also he knows my likeness for education, i take out books from my local library weekly, and read a book a day, so he was like wow why dont you read a book on islamic stuff, you want the knowledge, you like reading, but you want the easy way out by asking people, and he doesnt know everything, he knows a few things which have given me an interest, but not much, and sometimes i end up googling anwsers, but never know who to trust.
i think he sees the quality in me to educate myself properly because i have that ability. its just me, i took it as a positive encouragement, but then my nonmuslims friend made me doubt, by saying oh he saying it for his own benefit...which didnt make sense to me, so i wanted to know what that couldve meant.
i guess he couldve just told me to cover my head, dnt ask questions, do whatever your mum does and read a book if you must. i doubt he would want me to go anf get a proper education. either way if he had said no why do to a proper institute, how many people go there, just sit at home and read a book, maybe reaction wouldve been the same?
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In general I will not do anything just because it is recommended by someone. I would ask why they think I should do it, understand the reason, ascertain the necessity of action and then see what other options exist aside from the one recommended.
Well intentioned does not always mean well informed. Additionally, there may be different ways to reach an objective and they can vary by personal preferences.
This does not address the OP specific situation which I cant comment on.