would you gain islamic education if partner suggested it?

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He isnt making me, he suggested it. Because of my own interest in asking millions of questions, which he says he doesnt know it all, so why dont i do something about it.

its something that does concern me, because when all the families get together and some times we hear stupid jahil comments from aunts/uncles/cousins which infuriates me, but then i dont know an answer either. so i thought to myself as well, why dont i get some knowledge on my own religion, im willing to sacrifice time and money and whatnot in my previous degree, why not do the same for my religion, after all, i need it.

my question was based on what my friend said,i found a little tiny tiny doubt creep in, as well as what people here would do if their hus/wif suggested it, doesnt have to be a degreem could just be a course, or however.

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He/she wouldnt be getting involved, by merely suggesting it. and surely its only your own benefit in the end, if you know your religion well.

People say oh its between me and allah, well surely allah will ask how come you know squat-all about islam, even though were encouraged by your parents/partner, yet you knew all the ins and outs of playstation 3....( example)

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course he will pay.lol. he knows that. That wasnt even an issue. he couldve just told me to hop along to my local womens mosque centre and get some sort of knowledge on paying pittance a week....

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Sure why not. She's already suggested that we take an Arabic course together. I'd surely consider it.

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Yes, and your attitude.

if you overthink and overanalyze every single action with your spouse and/or what someone says, you will never be happy.

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There you go. You have your answer as to why he suggested taking the class. He picked up on your curiosity about religious matters. So, put the "doubts" about his intentions out of your mind. It's overall a positive suggestion...so stop thinking about the "doubts." As someone suggested, you can even ask your husband to attend the class with you. And if he says he can't (for various reasons such as time or money)...even then it doesn't mean he had ill intentions.

If you're interested in it, then take the class. It can only help...it can't hurt right?

But if you're not interested, it's not an obligation.

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Re: would you gain islamic education if partner suggested it?

Sara hun i say go for it, islamic courses are so beneficial and helpful, you have nothing to lose, and the reward for gaining knowlegde is so high. With the blessings that are showered from Allah whilst you're teaching your husband what you've learnt could increase the love between you both.

I'd definately give it a go.

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Re: would you gain islamic education if partner suggested it?

Sara, if you're interested...then take the class. As mithi_muskaan said, you have nothing to lose.

It seems that your husband also has an interest in Islam (based on him attempting to answer your questions and not always having the answers....and based upon him suggesting you take the class).

By taking the class, you'll develop your own knowledge (you may have fewer questions, :)) And with the knowledge you gain, you'll be able to answer questions your husband has...guide others (tactfully)....educate your own family, etc. If you were to make a list of pros and cons, I imagine there would be many pros....so if you're interested....go for it.

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i never suggested that, I am saying even if someone who I know to be very well intentioned recommended something in which I had an interest, just because they recommended it would not make me automatically go for it, I would have to evaluate it, and compare it to other options.

e,g, so even if my bro knows I want to go to machu picchu and finds some great deal and says yo, take a look, 1000 bucks, september 1st..go. I would look into it as far as what airline, what hotels, what is the itinerary etc etc before I say okay, I may look at other options because something 300 more may meet my itinerary preferences better..longer stay at point a vs point b.

I did find your friend's comment a little off putting, ignorant and disrespectful of your husband questioning his intentions like that, does your friend even know your husband well at all?

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Ummm, depends on the situation around which this suggestion took place.

Also, don't be sharing everything between you and your husband with friends. Some people give silly advice which may not apply and instead plant a negative seed in your brain. If a friend ever suggested to me that my husband was trying to "use" me or "transform" me, I'd be really careful about my friendship with her in the future.

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Re: would you gain islamic education if partner suggested it?

paabi ji, u rock and stuff and should be schoolin chicas in logic and rational thought etc.

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Re: would you gain islamic education if partner suggested it?

do u know why he would you like to go get a degree in islamic studies? I would first understand the reasonings, and then take any steps.

It may be that to achieve the same goal, different steps can be taken.

and I agree with nikki. No need to be taking ur "nice" friends comments to heart. You know your husband, she doesnt. If I were in your place, I'd tell the friend that that was not the case at all and she shouldnt be making such assumptions about the husband. And then I would distance myself.

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thank you jee. :hehe: