Rupay now that u mention it, its really funny but they do say “mom said this n that” lol but yes they don’t wanna do it either. actually these things happen with lov n strong bonds. u see ur grandkids once in a yr or two n ask them these things then kids wont feel comfortable. but if u live together u take care of them n they love u like hell then its ok. otherwise they r kinda strangers with who u r just starting to feel ok.
as for asking SIL’s kids to malish no way not only they themselves will bluntly refuse Sil n her hubby will make so much fuss. they just hav diff rules for their own kids n diff for nephews/nieces thats y i’m against these things coz everyones not treated equally n i dont wanna hav this feeling k meray kids ko dabaya ya jhukaya ja reha hai 