Re: Would you consider this controlling behavior? Is this love? I want to leave so ba
This has nothing to do with taking pity on her. And OP doesn’t need to share “everything”. If the husband tried to strangle her and threatened to beat her with a belt…that the only information that’s relevant when it comes to her safety. In a case like this, nothing else matters b/c the next time he snaps and get his hands around her neck again…he may not stop until she dies. In a case like this, it doesn’t matter whether it’s lack of communication, lack of enough time together…or whatever else is going on. NOTHING makes it ok for the husband to resort to physical violence. Its OP’s #1 priority to make sure she’s in a safe enviornment. After all…she won’t have a marriage with him or anyone else if she’s dead now will she?
** And my advice wouldn’t be any different if a man were to say that his wife physically abused him. Once a spouse loses control and resorts to physical violence…the spouse on the other end needs to get out ASAP and ensure his/her physical safety BEFORE trying to work on the marriage. No amount of stress, lack understanding, expectations, lack of communication…or any other issue makes it ok for 1 spouse to physically abuse the other.