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I thought you would be ok if a girl ate a live Rabbit in front of you on suhaag raat. Clubbing is peanuts in the eyes of the Monk.
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Why is that? ( Not being a smart alec here; genuinely want to know ).
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Because he’s not single and I don’t want random drunk girls chatting him up etc. etc.
(That’s the short answer)
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really ?
I thought people thought of me as very conservative.
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I have never done it, but based on Deeba’s answer it does look very similar to what they show in the movies.
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I’ve been clubbing without my husband (with friends) and he’s been clubbing without me (both while we were dating and while we were engaged). We don’t go so much anymore really unless it’s for a big birthday (friends) or for a bachelor / bachelorette party as we’re older. I went to Vegas for my bachelorette and he went to Montreal for his bachelor party. lol It was never a question of asking my husband though as I knew he trusted me and had no issues. But thats’s what our relationship is like (everyone is different). I never wanted to be with anyone who had trust issues.
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People aren’t all walking around drunk (well not in the places I’ve been to anyway) but there’s always going to be a level of flirting, people getting chatted up etc. Some clubs in London are gorgeous and really classy, more like very fancy restaurants.. My other half is well-known and I’m protective over him (He’s the same with me).. Like Summer said everyone is different and so are the dynamics of their relationships.. We’re obviously a little bit more possessive lol
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If you’re Muslim… Shouldn’t be going. If not… Find it a bit strange that she wants to go now that she’s engaged. Why has she never been before? And why go without you? Have you met these friends she wants to go with?
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I would not have a problem with it. I’ve been clubbing before many times during my 20’s and as someone else mentioned earlier, I know for a fact it’s not always what you see in on TV. Much of it depends on the person and the friend/group they’re going with. My husband has also gone clubbing before (we have gone together and separately) but being older, it’s not something we normally do these days. However, my husband had his bachelor party in Vegas and I know one night they went to Tao (they had one of those VIP tables and ended up seeing/meeting some well-known players for the Ravens so that actually ended up being their focus for the night given that the Ravens had just won the Super Bowl). 
Since our wedding, my husband has gone to several bachelor parties that involved going to a club…he’s actually going to Vegas again next month for another bachelor party and I have no doubt they’ll end up at some well-known club at least 1 night.
I trust my husband. I also know most of his friends and trust them. If I didn’t think I could trust my husband’s judgment when I’m not with him, I don’t see any reason for us to be married.
OP: As already mentioned, I’m assuming you agreed to marry your fiancé b/c you like her as a person and trust her judgments. If you have not yet, I would also recommend you set up a meeting (maybe a group lunch?) where you meet her friends. If you don’t trust your fiancé 100% or the people she’s friends with…then THIS is the time to sit down and sort it out. If you’re not comfortable with her going out with her friends without you, and if you think her friends are a bad influence on you…then you need to make sure right now that she is ok with your attitude b/c otherwise, it will cause arguments/resentments after marriage.
You need to really ask yourself what is it that you’re uncomfortable with. Are you not ok with this b/c you’re a practicing/believing Muslim and do not believe you OR her should ever be in a environment where so many haraam things are going on? But going by this reason, even YOU should refuse to go clubbing with her. Or are you afraid she won’t be able to control herself and end up getting drunk or doing something sexual with another man which really boils down to how much you trust her and is a much bigger issue than just clubbing.
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Clubbing etc in the UK is different from other countries anyway… just like the the way people drink here is much more extreme (in general).
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Well they are not married yet, right now he is just her financé. He cant tell her not to go, he doesn’'t have that right (yet). But he can talk about it to her.
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I should clarify, I do have a very open and honest communication with my fiancee. One of qualities I like about her is she is honest and upfront about everything. We do share similar thought on no drinking, eating haram and etc. Apart from this we do have a great relationship and we do agree that we are not always going to agree on everything.
From her perspective, I do understand her request, as she is young early 20s. She has never been to clubs and etc. We both live in a western community. So she wanted to go for the experience of it with her friends and sister. I did suggest to her that their is no harm in us going togather as a couple because I never been either but I did feel uncomfortable with her going with her friends alone.
We did have conversation about it and she understands my point of view and is okay with not going. I wanted to hear others thought on the subject to get different perspectives.
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I don’t quite get what you are against it. So, she will dance. If she doesn’t drink, she wouldn’t drink.
As long as she is with a group of people who will be around each other for safety, what exactly is the problem?
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This.
Also, I’m not a major club-goer, but I’ve gone 1-2x. It’s not my scene so I don’t go anymore at all. Same with fiance. He used to go with his friends but now that he’s older, it’s not his scene either. I was expecting something crazy when I went (with friends) and it was just like a big dark room with some seating on the sides and people drinking/dancing. And for the most part, if you’re with a bigger group, people will leave you alone. It’s all about the person and how much you trust them. If my fiance wanted to go (there are a few bachelor parties coming up and I know they’re going to vegas), I know I can trust him. He’s not going to drink and he’s not going to flirt with random girls. And like Paheli said, friends matter a lot. If you trust the girls going, then don’t worry.
Like others mentioned, this is probably for a bachelorette party, and I know of a few fairly conservative girls, that ended up doing vegas/clubbing before their wedding. I didn’t go so I obviously can’t attest to what happened, but I’m pretty sure they just went and got dressed up and danced with their girlfriends. Yeah, it’s probably not the most “halal” environment but if your concern is your fiance and what she’ll be doing…if you trust her, I wouldn’t worry.
Okay, so she sounds like me. I don’t drink, I don’t eat haram, etc. Like I said above, when I went to the club, I honestly just got it out of my system because I was quite bored after a bit (and it’s probably a LOT more fun going with your fiance/husband) since I was just sitting around mostly with my girlfriends, completely sober.
Why is it exactly that you aren’t okay with her going with her friends? Do you not trust them? Are they the type to pressure your fiance into doing something you wouldn’t be okay with?
yeah, there’s plenty of random hookups that happen at clubs/bars but you have to be a wiling participant. I’ve gotten approached by some drunk dude and you just say no and go away. That’s also why you have your girlfriends there.
If she is in fact like me and most my friends, it’s probably just something she wants to get out of her system.
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Exactly. At least in the U.S., a person doesn’t need to go “clubbing” to drink. Alcohol is ready available in most restaurants. And “clubbing” isn’t necessary to cheat either. In fact, most wives or husbands who cheat end up doing it with someone they know already (friend, co-worker, neighbor etc.).
Well, OP himself is ok with going clubbing with his fiancé so the lack of “halalness” in the environment clearly is not his concern (for himself or her). He just doesn’t want her going without him so I’d say the latter seems to be the issue.
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Some of you people here are really weird.
1- If it is okay to go clubbing for u, then it shud be okay b4 or after marriage, if it is NOT then it shud not be okay now. Why would she want to go b4 marriage, doesn’t make any sense to me.
2- Conservative girls going to Vegas for bachelor party, give me a frucking break, those girls are not conservative.
3- You don’t go clubbing g box u r old, lol.
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Mera tou imaan taaza ho gya. 
Btw, by conservative girls she may have meant hijabistas.
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why we treat hijabies different then non hijabi. does they don’t do sins or good deeds?
voila, seeing hijabies at bachelor party is kind a fanatsy come true… and that too at The Mirage or Bellagio. what else a man.. err… Muslim want.
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personally, I wouldn’t mind…coz my women are freakking sharif…no sense of insecurity. they’d be misfits anyways. lol