Would you allow your son to date?

[aahmed]

Re: Would you allow your son to date?

@Mamaof3

Yes I think its an important part of becoming a mature adult. My boys will be taught to respect women and what types of women to stay away from. I have no girls so I dont know if I’d hold double standards…I’d like to think not. But dating teaches important lessons about relations between the sexes, lessons which need to be learned. Separation of the sexes until marriage just creates confusion - I mean how can you relate to the opposite sex if you have no experience with relating to them? And I’mnot talking about mother, sister etc…I’m talking about relating to females as peers…if you dont have opposite sex as peers then you’llnever be able to treat them as such and are so much less likely to treat a life partner as a peer/partner.

This is bit off-topic and a cultural thing that I’m sure I’ll get blasted for…but what-the-heck here goes. In MOST relationships, its the man who leads ie., in romance and sex. I think its important for a man to bring experience to the marriage bed. Esp if the bride is a virgin. I’ve seen many times here that the unmarried gals want a virgin hubby…I dont get that…why wouldnt an expert or at least an experienced novice be preferable? No offense intended here.

Mamaof3, I couldn’t have put it better myself, you have summed up all my thoughts on the subject so eloquently which I, being the Jaahil un-pardh that I am, couldn’t have put it all in writing. Although, I’m sure you will get blasted many many times for your ‘modren (modern)’ thinking and you’ll get a lot of ‘Hai Hai besharams’ too.

[Kashif_Raja]

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@Mamaof3

OK, I fail to understand why teaching goodness, peace, love, prosperity etc etc etc is exclusive of dating…why not do BOTH??? and why you feel that allowing dating is “teaching your kids to have sex”??? Dating does NOT mean sex. It means going out for a dinner, lunch, coffee, show etc etc with a member of the opposite sex for the purpose of getting to know them. Sex may or may not occur based upon emotional feelings, mutual respect or (sometimes) just plain horniness. But allowing your offspring to go out on a date is NOT teaching them to have sex! sheesh.

Mrs Mamaof3, What follows dating is sex usually. Allowing your offspring to out out on a date is encouragin sex.
Have you ever been to texas maam? Girls and Boys are chaperoned around (which is fine) usually to a dance. I have no issues with that type of setup, but to have your teeenage daughter dressed up in under garment type dresses is encouraging sex after your dinner or lunch thing that you mentioned.

[No.X]

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Erm, what is wrong with post-date sex?

[funguy]

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Yes, as long as he doesn't marry or impregnate them before he gets on his feet. He has to be very responsible and know what he wants out of life. Oh and she can't be a bimbo.

[Kashif_Raja]

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Yeah I see the responsibilty that you are teaching already. Have sex with someone elses daughter but don't get her pregnant. How about if it was your daughter being asked on a date?

[funguy]

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Well, I would tell the same to the daughter. Don't get pregnant or marry before getting on your feet. Oh and he can't be an asshole.

[Kashif_Raja]

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So you will encourage your daughter to date?

[funguy]

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I thought the original question was ‘would you allow’ and not ‘would you encourage’.

I have dated all my life and it would be very hypocritic of me to set different standards for my children. I would not encourage or force but if they come ask for my permission, I would prolly say ok.

[No.X]

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Yeah I see the responsibilty that you are teaching already. Have sex with someone elses daughter but don't get her pregnant. How about if it was your daughter being asked on a date?
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So, you want people to have sex only to get pregnant? Or only have pre-marital sex whilst getting the other pregnant?

[funguy]

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May be what I wrote above is 'easier said than done'. I may have totally different emotions/feelings when a real scenario presents itself.

[Mem_Sahib]

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I think its not a question of will you LET them.. They will do it anyway!!

Mamaof3 - My husband & I were each other's firsts. It was awkward and a little frustrating.. but it was comforting to know that he hasnt been anywhere else..

[Shikra]

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@Mem Saab

Im a virgin and so was my husband. Its awkward and a little frustrating.. but it was comforting to know that he hasnt been anywhere else..

You are still a virgin but your husband is not a virgin anymore but he hasn’t been anywhere else

[mAd_ScIeNtIsT]

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^^

LOL ... I was siitng there wondering if I was the only one who was confused by what she said !

[Shikra]

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No, you are not the only one Great minds think alike

I am still confused and will be confused til she replies. I mean… Boy, I tell you, it must BE a little awkward and frustrating as she stated.

[funguy]

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Mem Saab- I'd sincerely advise against spilling bedroom stories here. You should resolve this with him. :p

[mAd_ScIeNtIsT]

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Actually, realised a way in which her statement could be true, but it involves something that is haraam

[Shikra]

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I realized it before you, and that’s why I am waiting for some clarifications

[mAd_ScIeNtIsT]

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I’m not sure if you’re thinking of the same thing I am … who’s mind is dirtier?

[funguy]

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Both of you are virgins, hence your opinions don't count.

[Mem_Sahib]

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ehehehehehehehehe its You paindoo’s - meri queens english ka sathyanaas kar diya

No we were BOTH virgins.