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smack em in da head lock em in the room.. dont make the mistake ur parents made by letting u free
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true but if you give them the right tarbiyyah at home than they should be able to come to a good righteous decision themselves and you wouldnt need to follow em to school because you know you have done a good job and have trust in them and Allah.
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hell no
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Of course not.
Actually so far I havent thought of my daughter ever being older than four! Well I dont date, and I dont believe in the whole dating business. I will allow her to get to know the guy if there is a guy who she is serious about and vice versa. But that all falls into the marriage category.
Regular dating. Absolutely not.
Goodness me I think my kids will always be under 10. :p
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no they are being home schooled. masla he nahien rahay ga.
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Great minds think a like 
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koi baat nahien we all make mistakes.
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Date is such convoluted word, just like love, evolution, freedom and democracy.
If the question is that would I allow my daughter to go alone with a male nonrelative where either of the party is interested in something more than studies, than the answer is no, as long as she is living under my roof or I am paying for more than 50% of her expenses. Afterwards, I can only caution her, she is "allowed" to do whatever she wants & will be responsible for her actions.
I would 'allow' the same for my son.
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Only if who they date are Reeeeeeeeeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaalllllllllllllllllllllllyyyyyyyyyyy rich.
Seriously though, anwer is yes.......... I'ts going to be unavoidable in a few years time.
howwill you stop them?
Devoted to Allah is along the right lines. if you teach'em right they do right.......
Well........ thats the theory anyway.
and hasnt worked with a few people I know.........
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Hmmm... for you guys its seems like just a theoretical/rhetorical question.
Dang! :(
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Faisal, I am preparing my self for the barrage of questions with the next few years but I have my "fingers crossed" as well. Allah Khair keray ga.
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See, my argument was that mature girls should be responsible for their own future just like any other human being. If you are dating within reasonable limits then you are doing a favour to yourself and your parents. Obviously, you will go through some good and bad experiences but eventually it will be your decision and your life.
How can a parent who forced an arranged marriage on her daughter be content if his/her daughter ends up in a divorce or a unhappy life.
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queer, howcome you never ask me out on a date? :(
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forget about it
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just becoz you not gonna allow your kids to date doesnt mean that you will force them into an arranged marriage…islamic guidelines all the way i say which allow you to meet and talk with the person within limits off course and no one makes the decision for the couple involved it is their decision becoz they are the ones who will be living together and are getting married to each other not the khaandaan.
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See, my argument was that mature girls should be responsible for their own future just like any other human being. If you are dating within reasonable limits then you are doing a favour to yourself and your parents. Obviously, you will go through some good and bad experiences but eventually it will be your decision and your life.
How can a parent who forced an arranged marriage on her daughter be content if his/her daughter ends up in a divorce or a unhappy life.
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(Mainly because it is 12:46 A.M and I have nothing better to do)
The question is, what are 'reasonable limits'? Who defines them? How do you ensure that the dating thing, once started, will not, in a moment of overwhelming passion, transgress the set limit? From your point of view, god forbid, If ever such a catastrophe occurs, what will be your reaction? What if your child rebels against your rules and does not accept your set of morals? What if your girls like a guy, or another girl for that matter, who somehow doesn't pass your scrunity for some reason or the other, but is, otherwise pretty normal in context with the general populance?
The 'you' in the above statements isn't really aimed at you specifically, but at all parents or wannabe ones who are advocating dating within set limits.
I am aware that some of my statements are closer to closet rhetoric then reality but still, it can get awfully scratchy if you decide to pick and choose the boyfriends of your girl instead of just going with their choice and managing to instill in them beforehand the ability to make a sensible choice.
I am assuming that we are talking about 16-18 here.
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I agree that if your child is an adult and responsible he/she has every right to make his/her own decisions. This is not about whether we’ll “force” our kids to NOT date, its that we wont allow it. They might listen to us, they might not.
Its not that you are deciding for them, you’re the parent, you bring them into this world, the least they can do is respect your wishes - assuming that your wishes are sensible enough.
Plus just as a marriage (arranged) can be unhappy so can any other type. Nobody really knows what issues will arise or what the future will hold.
Explain hows its doing a favour to anyone? Dating doesnt guarantee a happy marriage or future. Life has so many factors, that in the end you cant really decide what might be “best” you sort of have to think about what might be “better”.
Plus for me its all about the religious side along with the points Ive made.
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No, I am not talking about 16-18.
I am talking about girls who are in universities, late twenties and single. They are mature enough to decide what is good and bad for them. What is responsible and what is not.
There are girls out there who are past what we call the marriage age and are sitting home because their parents are too strict…. or they never had a chance to date earlier in their life and find the whole dating scene quite awkward. I don’t blame them.. I blame their parents for not giving them the opportunity to do what’s best for them.
MQ, I would rather live a unhappy life due to my own decisions. I am aware of what religion says. :-)
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This is a very good point you have raised. Unfortunately, a lot of people do not and will not understand this problem unless they have witnessed the effects of this first hand.