im sure Allah ki taraf say hota hai ziyada muhababat apnay aulad kay liye but tell me ive seen people who culd nt have kids so the husband got married again y cant they adopt wats a big deal a child is a child.
because socially/culturally its still such a 'taboo' thing to do. its so wrong for the man to get married again, if the women was fertile and the man wasnt then what? would the women be allowed to marry again? ofcourse not so why should the man be able to. They could easily just adopt....
There is nothing wrong in adopting a kid depending on your partner's choice
in Hindu law adopted kid have full rights in property then parents brothers/sisters
in India some charities say it is mandatory that you need to write some of your property on adopted kids name in order to adopt them
my cousin's wife was infertile/had many misplaced pregnancies, they tried nearly 10 years, spent lakhs of money on medication
but finally they decided to adopt and they adopted through some charity, they gave a kid who have features similar to the mother and father
my grand father was adopted by someone, i inherited that property, but my grand father has his biological father's last name and we carry the same
guppies whats your opinion on women having kids from Sperms from Sperm bank
I have read somewhere that Islamically couples shouldnt use the ovum or sperm from someone who isnt their spouse, bcos the father / mother would be unknown.
we did after our loss the associated complications meant we could not have kids.
is it such a huge issue really? not everyone is woody allen.
btw u can always nurse em and then they become mehrams
which is kinda strange loop hole eh?
ne mehram but heres some milk and boom...mehram.
1- if known
2- not necessary as long as the adoption is not kept a secret
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1) nurse em if its that big of a deal and u have instant mehrams
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2) most adopted kids parents identity is not known in Pakistan and in many other places you are not told anything anyways, kids have names given to them by orphanages
3) adopted child can have the same inhertiance rights if the other ppl agree.
technically by islamic inheritance laws which were put in place to encourage ppl to adopt and take inheritance based arguments away, my brothers have more of a claim on my inheritance than my children who are adopted, but the bros can choose to waive their claim, which they did.
part of the inheritance and all being kept seperate was also so ppl dont go adopting the kids of their deceased pals and family members with a goal to get the hands on the inheritance of the orphaned child.
although i do know of one case where a girl adopted by pakistanis in buffalo NY was left on her own when her parents died in an accident, her uncles booted her saying she had no claim on their brother's property and assets. I am not really sure how that seems islamic and all.
Shut up you stupid az an american.
Can you ask your female to boom a 10, 12, 15 year old boy?
Send an 18 year old boy boomed by your female for adoption to me.
never. i wouldnt mind supporting a child back in the home country or elsewhere, but taking a child in and calling them my own cuz god hadnt given me children of my own, that i would never do.
there is always a reason behind what god does or doesnt do for us. if i dont (god forbid) ever have children, i will accept it as god's will... HE knows what is best for me and my future and us as a couple.. HE sees and knows things which we cant not even begin to understand.
So if God chooses not to give me a child, its for my own best :)
you can't give your wealth (in a will) to the adopted kid either.
But Islamically you can give 1/3rd to anyone you want to (or put it on the will for after you pass away, coz you can give anything to anyone while your al;ive as a present or whatnot) who has no right in your inheritance.
Can you ask your female to boom a 10, 12, 15 year old boy?
Send an 18 year old boy boomed by your female for adoption to me.
Whoa, what the heck? Why are you getting so rude and personal? Seriously, discussing and debating is one thing - being rude and arrogant is another. What do you mean by "stupid az an american"? You think your reply doesn't sound "stupid"? This is so disgusting.
And an 18 year old boy is legally an adult where I live, so he wont require adoption. And even to the question about a boy at an age where breastfeeding isn't an option, there are better ways of asking, if you really wanted to know at all.
The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) once said that a person who cares for an orphaned child will be in Paradise with him, and motioned to show that they would be as close as two fingers of a single hand. An orphan himself, Muhammad paid special attention to the care of children. He himself adopted a former slave and raised him with the same care as if he were his own son.
However, the Qur'an gives specific rules about the legal relationship between a child and his/her adoptive family. The child's biological family is never hidden; their ties to the child are never severed. The Qur'an specifically reminds adoptive parents that they are not the child's biological parents: "...Nor has He made your adopted sons your (biological) sons. **Such is (only) your (manner of) speech by your mouths. But Allah tells (you) the Truth, and He shows the (right) Way. Call them by (the names of) their fathers; that is juster in the sight of Allah. But if you know not their father's (names, call them) your brothers in faith, or your trustees. But there is no blame on you if you make a mistake therein. *(What counts is) the intention of your hearts*. And Allah is Oft-Returning, Most Merciful."
(Qur'an 33:4-5)
The guardian/child relationship has specific rules under Islamic law, which render the relationship a bit different than what is common adoption practice today. The Islamic term for what is commonly called adoption is kafala, which comes from a word that means "to feed." In essence, it describes more of a foster-parent relationship. Some of the rules in Islam surrounding this relationship:
An adopted child retains his or her own biological family name (surname) and does not change his or her name to match that of the adoptive family.
An adopted child inherits from his or her biological parents, not automatically from the adoptive parents.
When the child is grown, members of the adoptive family are not considered blood relatives, and are therefore not muhrim to him or her. "Muhrim" refers to a specific legal relationship that regulates marriage and other aspects of life. Essentially, members of the adoptive family would be permissible as possible marriage partners, and rules of modesty exist between the grown child and adoptive family members of the opposite sex.
If the child is provided with property/wealth from the biological family, adoptive parents are commanded to take care and not intermingle that property/wealth with their own. They serve merely as trustees.
These Islamic rules emphasize to the adoptive family that they are not taking the place of the biological family -- they are trustees and caretakers of someone else's child. Their role is very clearly defined, but nevertheless very valued and important.
It is also important to note that in Islam, the extended family network is vast and very strong. It is rare for a child to be completely orphaned, without a single family member to care for him or her. Islam places a great emphasis on the ties of kinship -- a completely abandoned child is practically unheard of. Islamic law would place an emphasis on locating a relative to care for the child, before allowing someone outside of the family, much less the community or country, to adopt and remove the child from his or her familial, cultural, and religious roots. This is especially important during times of war, famine, or economic crisis -- when families may be temporarily uprooted or divided. "Did He not find you an orphan and give you shelter? And He found you wandering, and He gave you guidance. And He found you in need, and made you independent. Therefore, treat not the orphan with harshness, nor drive away a petitioner (unheard). But the bounty of the Lord - rehearse and proclaim!"