would u wear hijab and abaya for spouse?

[Sara516]

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@psyah

Would it please you to feel attractive to many men, but at the same time hurting the feelings of the man in your life?

The problem with this argument is that you're assuming a woman who doesn't wear hijab/abaya is doing so with the intention to look attractive to other men, when tha'ts not always the case.

[queen_24]

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@Sara516

The problem with this argument is that you're assuming a woman who doesn't wear hijab/abaya is doing so with the intention to look attractive to other men, when tha'ts not always the case.

I agree. That't not always the case but Alas, it eventually turns out to be. Also, its not always a woman's intention to look attractive to the other men but you never know the (some) men how they see you!!

[queen_24]

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@nadz123

Not just religious reasons buy a personal preferance of husband? ( a good husband)

Yes nadz. Without a single doubt, I will. I would love to dress myself the way he wants me to, except if he wants me to wear anything revealing. I won't do that.

[Sara516]

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@queen_24

Also, its not always a woman's intention to look attractive to the other men but you never know the (some) men how they see you!!

yeah but going by that logic, the way some hijabis dress, they will attract men.
Women who are not conventionally attractive may find some men attracted to them
Women who do full parda may turn some men on...

[Deeba1234]

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@Paheli00

No, I would not.

He obviously knew before marriage that I don’t wear hijab/abaya. Yet he still chose to marry me. If having a wife who wore hijab/abaya was so important to him (ie. it just hurts him soooo deeply to see me going outside the home without it )…then he should’ve married a woman who either already wore those garments OR agreed to wear it BEFORE signing the nikah papers.

Agree..

If mine did this I’d say the same thing..

[redvelvet]

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@nadz123

Hmmmmm.

Well the in answer to the first question the husband had asked nicely. And got offended and hurt when wife said Why r u controlling me?

There's a difference in asking and pressuring. If he's being nice about it, then respond to him nicely.

[Laadli]

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I would agree... as long as he wore one too... :D

[queen_24]

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@Sara516

yeah but going by that logic, the way some hijabis dress, they will attract men. Women who are not conventionally attractive may find some men attracted to them Women who do full parda may turn some men on...

Feel sorry but yeah that's true!!

[mickeymouse]

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i wonder how "nice" their reaction would be if the wife refuses.

[KKF]

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@psyah

Pleasing the spouse in good things pleases God.

i agree but that doesn't mean that one should follow a particular request/order from husband...the Hijaab must be from within the woman and it should be purely for Allah...no ifs and buts, imo.

[queen_24]

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@Khalil KhaaN FaaKhta

i agree but that doesn't mean that one should follow a particular request/order from husband...the Hijaab must be from within the woman and it should be purely for Allah...no ifs and buts, imo.

Allah makes wasilah. Allah gives chance to everyone to obey him. In some case, women follow Allah's rules directly, for some, there needs to be a way.... when their husbands ask them to follow certain rules, & they do it for him (not for Allah) still Allah directs them to the right path.

5 different passenger would follow five different route to reach the same destination... doesn't mean their destination was different but the way the chose!!

I know, doing something for purely Allah's khooshnoodi would double your sawaab but just making it an excuse ke main to bas Allah ke liye karungi to karungi varna nahin, is a lame one!!

[Sasha21]

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Been there done that. I do wonder if my hijab counts for anything with Allah since I started doing it because my hubby wanted me to. Wouldn't that be really lame, if he gets off the hook (as my guardian for making me do the right thing) but I don't because I was only doing it cuz he asked me. That would be a waste.

[queen_24]

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@Sasha21

Been there done that. I do wonder if my hijab counts for anything with Allah since I started doing it because my hubby wanted me to. Wouldn't that be really lame, if he gets off the hook (as my guardian for making me do the right thing) but I don't because I was only doing it cuz he asked me. That would be a waste.

Since you obeyed your husband and obeying husband when he right is one of Allah's command too, I am sure, you will be rewarded for that. Don't think it would be wasted. Neki kabhi zaya nahin jaati. :)

[Monk]

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No.

[candy_apple]

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Abaya - *NEVER *- unless I ever go to visit Pakistan in which case I wouldn't even step foot outside without a full nikab (yes by choice). About the hijab, depends on how much he really wanted me to wear it (like how much it meant to him) and my life's circumstances. If he was rich enough to support me so that I would NEVER have to work again, I may consider it, otherwise no....especially if I need to get up the corporate ladder. In the end though, I really think it is up to the individual to decide if she wants to wear it. She should do it for Allah and it should be her choice. She should never be pressured into it by her husband.

[psyah]

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@Sara516

The problem with this argument is that you're assuming a woman who doesn't wear hijab/abaya is doing so with the intention to look attractive to other men, when tha'ts not always the case.

Peace Sister Sara516

I phrased what I wrote carefully. Please read it again ... If I was making any assumption it was not on the intent of the woman - but on the intent of the men around that woman. I asked how it would make her feel knowing that men may find her attractive - (that is me assuming about the men) - whilst her man may be uncomfortable with that (again that is me assuming a type of jealousy that her man may harbour) ... Is it wrong for a man to feel jealous for his wife? It is just an argument that is worth entertaining.

[gudiaali]

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no, i will wear it when it comes from within however, i can show some flexibility if he asks me to wear it occasionally. by this i mean that if he asks me to wear it to some people houses where it is kind of necessary for women to wear it and where women visitors not wearing it considered to be highly in-appropriate then in such cases i will wear the hijaab. or if he asks me to wear it at some religious gatherings then i would do so.

[bao_bihari]

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@Jolie

Yes, especially if I knew about his opinion regarding this matter before marriage! :)

This is what my wife did. I did not intended to ask her to do pardah right from the first day, wanted her not to do it for my self but rather do it for ALLAH, but she started proper* sharae pardah *from the next day of marriage. Even i was surprised and asked her not to be jazbaati, but now mashallah its seven years and she is more religious then me.

Allahuma lakal hamd wa lakka shukar

[psyah]

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@Sasha21

Been there done that. I do wonder if my hijab counts for anything with Allah since I started doing it because my hubby wanted me to. Wouldn't that be really lame, if he gets off the hook (as my guardian for making me do the right thing) but I don't because I was only doing it cuz he asked me. That would be a waste.

Peace Sasha21

Do you have a high regard of Allah (SWT)? If so, then Allah (SWT) cannot be unjust - If we can be rewarded for having halal sexual relations with our spouse - which is a totally selfish act - then why can't we be rewarded for making our spouse happy? We obey RasoolAllah (SAW) don't we? So what if one day someone says I only obey Allah (SWT) and do not obey anyone else ... This is the same mistake that Iblis made when he defied Allah (SWT) by not prostrating (showing respect) to Adam (AS) upon the instruction of Allah (SWT).

Allah (SWT) has given us a system by following that system it is itself a praiseworthy thing ... Spouses should be pleasing for each other ... Really the only reason why husbands have been given a slight authority is to balance out the superiority of women in their abilities to influence.

[Maanokhan1991]

@nadz123:9683135

Not just religious reasons buy a personal preferance of husband? ( a good husband)

I would not mind doing it for my husband, i do not think its a big thing to do that for someone who loves you? In return he would be respecting and loving me more and our relationship would getting more stronger.