If ur engaged or about to be engaged and ur other asked u to take a blood test to c if u hav stds/hiv (provided they knew you’d done that stuff beforehand).. ?
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I dont mind, dunno abt other desi families, :D
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My mom says its' bakwaaz, if i go for a pure raised in pak fob, i wudnt hav ot worry about that stuff :p
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Sara: I would'nt be offended because i would make him take the blood test too:) I hate to say your mom is wrong. There is no such thing as a pure raised paki fob............It is always good to know before it is too late.
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Okay how about... what if it came back positive? Would you dump their (once) skanky diseased self? :p
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I am sorry to say that i would dump them if the disease was not curable. Afterall, you do have to look ahead for the future of yourself and your children etc.
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Oh yes, I am sorry I was talking about HIV not STD.
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Uhmmm Lusi, i think ur tlaking about HIV… STDS r spread via SEX, oral, anal, intercourse etc… hence, the term ** sexually ** transmitted diseases 
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I would not be offended by that requirement cause as mahru said marriage is about the future...and if you are loving your partner you want the best for him/her...even if you have to sacrifice your own dreams for the other
HIV test is mandatory in my country before getting married, so that both partners are "aware" of the risk involved in the marriage...i think it is good!
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I agree with the other poster....there is no such thing as a pure raised Paki fob.
And no, I would not be offended if my fiance asked me to take a HIV/STD test b/c I know for a fact it will come back negative. And of course, I will ask him to take the tests too.
Marrying someone who turns out to be HIV positive is completely out of the question. And as far as STD goes, no, I would not marry someone with an STD. When a person has STD, I think that says a lot about not only their morals, but also their level of responsibility.
I can forgive him for choosing to engage in sexual activities before marriage, but I can not forgive him for being stupid enough not to protect himself.
Oh also, depending on which state you are in the US, a lot of then require a blood test before you can get the marriage license.
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well if a guy is marrying a ABCD..he better ask for the tests...
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Blood tests are mandatory ... no question about it. I wouldn't be offended or insulted if I was asked to do it since I know it would come back negative. The whole issue is about my/our future and future children.
All these stories are coming out now about men in Pakistan/South East Asia who work overseas/in other countries going back to Pakistan and infecting their wives with HIV. It's a pretty sad situation since these women have no idea what their husbands are doing while they are 'working' and do become victims of this disease ... HIV is rapidly spreading across the Middle East too.
Culturally, it is extremely taboo and insulting to ask someone to get a test done. Can you imagine asking your future mother in law in an arranged marriage situation to have her child get a test done before marriage? It would probably end things then and there.
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Yeah I brought this up to my mom and she wa jsust outraged.. she said if i went for a guy from pak, i wudn’t deal with this crap because they’re Oh so pure.. If i mentoin anything like taht, like it’s good to have an education and work because ur husband might die, she thinks i’m being morbid and gets really mad when I think that way .. im trying to be realistic, but eh..
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Well look at the society we live in. It doesn't matter if you are an ABCD or a FOB, a lot of people out there aren't exactly pure and where you are from is irrelevant. It isn't just about sex though, HIV is spread other ways too (infected needles, etc.) ... why risk it? Khair, it's your life and it's up to each individual whether they want to take that chance.
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Yeah of course… unfortunately some ppl r stuck in that mentality, they dont think about the bad stuff and that ppl in pak are purer and more virgin or something
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here in bahrain no marrriage takes place (by law) unless both the man and woman dont go through a blood test....
without the blood test report from a government hospital, no molvi will carry out the nikaah....
i think other countries shud also enforce this....
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^ yes, Islam says u have to find yourself a good partner....
no way will Islam encourage anyone to marry someone who has hiv/std or any other harmful diseases....
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Well that’s obvious 
