Re: would u alllow ur husband to cheat?
No way! If you're married, you're married. If you don't wanna live within the boundaries of marriage, then don't be married! And if he does it with her consent, then it's not cheating. It's an open marriage, and she's just in denial.
When you make a commitment and sign the marriage contract, you're bound to it's terms. Once you violate those terms, then the contract is no longer valid-- and in my opinion, the marriage is no longer valid either.
Furthermore, the likelihood of transmission of std's is too much of a risk to take.
Now, if the woman has no way to support herself or if her children would be taken away in a divorce, then I cannot fault her for staying. But a woman who would rather have creature comforts of a higher level and stay with a man because of that, is just a prostitute. And while I do not fault most prostitutes (say, 97% of them I do not judge poorly), they fall within the latter 3%.
Marriage should not be for survival of either partner. It should be based on compassion, trust and love. The two should grow together in all regards, not betray each other or use one another.