I am not disagreeing with that... I am disagreeing with the fact its suicide. Yes, unprotected sex is suicide, but taking precautions is not.
I agree that protected sex with an HIV infected person is not suicide. However, I doubt someone will get pregnant through protected sex. So when I talk about a person's basic right to have children, it requires unprotected sex (or IVF). To do that with an HIV infected person is similar to injecting yourself with a fatal disease. I doubt it makes sense or is permissible. Thus my statement that as much as one loves his/her spouse, pls do not commit suicide. Of course if having kids is not important to you (or not as important) and you want to stick it out with your HIV infected spouse, more power to you.
Life isnt rose coloured at all.. marriage presents itself with many hurdles. If people have said that they would stick it out with their spouse, we should just acknowledge that rather than say that when the time comes, we might change our mind.... For me, I know i will stick by thick and thin... and i dont need to prove it to anyone except for my spouse
For those who are in a relationship and know the challenges and compromises it takes, its fine to make sweeping statements about how we will stick through thick and thin. Its actually very cute. For those who have not been in any serious relationship and their awareness is based on Harelequin and Mills & Boon, may be not so much. No way am I discouraging people from standing by their spouse in such heart-rendering situations, I am just cautioning them not to be snooty, if someone decides not to stick it out. Thats all. None of these decisions are easy or clear-cut. And life is not a computer game of chess, where you can just re-do your choices.