Would/have you told your spouse about previous relationships?

[fairywings85]

Re: Would/have you told your spouse about previous relationships?

@mclovin123

She doesn’t have to tell?? Are you guys kidding me???

According to the original post, she does not want to tell him because she doesn’t want him to use it as a weapon - WOW. how selfish is she?

Does she love the guy? Does she care about the guy? or… is she just too desperate to get married?

If her reason was that she was afraid of him putting off the marriage or something like that then I would understand but her reason is to protect herself. Firstly, she lied and then she doesn’t want to tell him because she doesn’t want him to use her mistake in a fight. (It would be very shallow of the guy to use such a thing). But thats not the point here, because she is the one who made the mistake and she should be ready to face any consequences.

If my fiance tells me that she had a relationship 3 years ago with some guy, and that she lied to me and regrets lying to me, and the entire time she was really scared of telling me, that it was her mistake (lying) and is really sorry, I will love her more than anything because of her honesty.

So if she actually cares about him and loves him then she should tell him. If the guy puts off the marriage, then it will be clear that he isn’t the right guy and he only cares about his wife meeting certain standards (ex: wife should never have been in a relationship) and that he doesn’t care about her as a person.

If the guy actually loves her, he should forgive her because of her apology.

The issue here is that she lied to him.

**I can’t believe that so many people told her to forget about it, no wonder this world is messed up. **

I’d have to speak to her again to be honest…BUT she really loves this guys she is going to marry and she regrets her previous relationship and that she should have waited for this guy…

And also its not that crazy to think he would use this in an argument…she says that he’s ‘like that’ and when he is angry he would say anything to be honest.

And you say it would make u love her more…i mean you’re a different person. not all people are the same. what people ‘should’ feel and what they actually feel are 2 different things…

I do agree that the issue is that she has lied to him…its a fact..he asked her point blank and she denied it…