Re: Working Womens Kids More Likely to be Sick or Poisoned
Sorry, lets not talk about ideal cases and exceptions. I do understand that in some areas women might have to work in order to make both ends meet. But generally speaking, how many women have you seen in your daily life who do job only for social service of humanity or only for survival from poverty. (not for an attractive salary) How many are able to maintain that perfect 'balance' between her job and children ? I haven't seen many perfect men either in this regard, but the role of mother is far more important than that of a father when it comes to educating a child. That is why you would never find any case of our ideals working outside with exception of very very few. Hazrat khadija (r.a) stopped working and became a housewife after entering Islam. Even though they spent months without food and all the basic necessities of life (we are not even 0.1% close to their situation) Just name few suhabias who worked outside for ANY reason. Name one Suhabia who didn't spend all her day at home educating their children, DAY and NIGHT. After all, the Junnah lies under the feet of mothers for a reason. A mother is 3 times more deserving (than a father) of respect and khidmah of her children, for a reason. Certainly one of the reasons must be the amount of time she dedicates herself for their education.
Btw, if two women are of equal talent, wisdom and having the same level of education and dedication and all other qualities. Let me ask a common sense question:
Who will play a better role in developing the character and personality of their children ? The one who gives more time to them or the one who give less time to them ?
Re: Working Womens Kids More Likely to be Sick or Poisoned
NIH research cannot be applied to a lot of other populations and may not be authentic. Who knows which sample population they used. We only have abstract.
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Exactly I think ar women are really good at managing both task - they do wonders mate !
I bet , if this NIH's research is done on desi working women - the result would have much far much different !
Re: Working Womens Kids More Likely to be Sick or Poisoned
People here get all riled up because they always seem to think whatever they are doing, i.e. working and raising kids, or staying home and raising kids is right. Let go of your personal selves (along with your chachiz, mamiz, tayi examples for a bit)...
It doesnt make you any less of a human being if you cannot devote the same time to your kids as a full time stay home mom, we all have our 'majbooris' but its kinda silly to deny you'd be on par with them when it comes to raising the kids because you wont have as much time with the kids, simple. Still some full time working moms pull it off at times, there are exceptions.
Remember, raising kids is a full time job too, possibly tougher than being an engineer, lawyer or a doctor at times. Again, both categories deserve respect. If a mother is working full time away from her children, it takes alot of heart and handling the two things simultaneously is quite a challenge. Most of the time she needs to support the family financially so she has no choice to begin with.
Re: Working Womens Kids More Likely to be Sick or Poisoned
hey man women should simply not work and stay at home, us men are more than able to teach women, and treat women. even if it has to do with their hoo haa etc, its all kosher ya know.
waisay abstract theek hai, where is the full study? :)
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seriously people? is sarad the only one who read the 5 lines of the abstract ad noted that it has to do with kids 7-17? I am not suite sure how preschool formative years become part of the discussion.
you guys want to pore over details of NIH study..here you go but please read it… now this will give a lot of ammo to all of you guys to fight over. But realize that demographic factors especially income and single parent vs both parents are a huge factor, so is understanding that non maternal care can be a good day care, a bad day care a charity day care, a grand ma..whatever.
Re: Working Womens Kids More Likely to be Sick or Poisoned
People here get all riled up because they always seem to think whatever they are doing, i.e. working and raising kids, or staying home and raising kids is right. Let go of your personal selves (along with your chachiz, mamiz, tayi examples for a bit)...
It doesnt make you any less of a human being if you cannot devote the same time to your kids as a full time stay home mom, we all have our 'majbooris' but its kinda silly to deny you'd be on par with them when it comes to raising the kids because you wont have as much time with the kids, simple. Still some full time working moms pull it off at times, there are exceptions.
Remember, raising kids is a full time job too, possibly tougher than being an engineer, lawyer or a doctor at times. Again, both categories deserve respect. If a mother is working full time away from her children, it takes alot of heart and handling the two things simultaneously is quite a challenge. Most of the time she needs to support the family financially so she has no choice to begin with.
I understand what you are saying, but do consider that having a working mom can add a lot tothe family. There is a sense of pride in her work ethic and accomplishments, she is a role model as a nurturer and also at other skills, she is capable and reliable in a variety of ways. It's not all about everyone giving the same amount of time.
Also, what do you tell your daughters,when you raise em. Hat are you teacing them to be? What dress are you creating for them? What is te point of themhaving a nurturing mom that cultivates their talents, if those talents are not allowed to be used?
Re: Working Womens Kids More Likely to be Sick or Poisoned
I think its obvious women have a right to work and do what they please. Men - begrudgingly - acknowledge that right most of the time. However, when studies like this one come out, they dont really read them (the first page of it had me laughing)...they just get on a high horse and yell to the mountain tops "see i told you our kids would turn out crazy because you wanted to work!".
The issue is not working mothers at all. The issue is the amount of help working mothers ask for from their husbands while raising a child. Men THINK they wouldnt have to do anything if the women were at home. Wrong. You're still going to be stuck helping out so you might as well keep your wife happy.
