The character of rural woman has been truely shown doing different works from taking water from the well (In this video the well is fortunately in home. In many areas women have to walk miles with Ghada on their heads for getting drinking water), churning lassi through madhani, taking care of buffaloes / cows and milking cows and making chaara (grass) for them.
Beside these works, rural women also involved in preparing food and getting that to the their husbands / brothers, etc in fields in addition to taking care of the children. Probably in some areas, women also have to guard crops from birds at the time of havest, as depicted in this song:
Coming to women of urban areas especially working women, we see that they feel difficulty to manage balance between the working life and household affairs. They need baby-sitters which part was traditionally on Dadi, etc , but due to increasing trend and wishes of urban women not to be part of joint family, they feel problem in this aspect too.
All the above situation, raises various cultural and social considerations:
(1) Whether or not rural women have better management skills than urban women?
(2) Whether urban women make themselves overburdened by opting to be working women?
(3) Whether or not Joint family system is a blessing or need of our society?
Sometimes joint family system helps especially when ladies are doing jobs its a lot better if one's parents take care of their children rather than day cares or nannies.
Its not old rather you can say its India base system. Islam never said that one should have joint family system, its men's responsibility to take care of their parents not "bahus." Islam never taught us that, instead I have heard it taught people if you have wife its better to give her own house if one cannot afford it than at least husband should give his wife her own room where no one can enter without her permission.
Its not old rather you can say its India base system. Islam never said that one should have joint family system, its men's responsibility to take care of their parents not "bahus." Islam never taught us that, instead I have heard it taught people if you have wife its better to give her own house if one cannot afford it than at least husband should give his wife her own room where no one can enter without her permission.
Yes its not compulsory in Islam and its responsibility of men to take care of their parents. We also know that women are not even required to do things for thier husbands as a religious duty.
Considering our Indo-Pak society, joint family system has served the families with lesser sources of income for centuries and as pointed by you it does facilitate working women.
Having said the above, why do these women wish that their brothers follow the joint family system?
(1) Whether or not rural women have better management skills than urban women?
Well in my opinion you've mentioned that rural women basically take care of the house and children and daily chores... whereas the rural women goes out and works....from alot of women i knw they do both, they go to work and manage home and children, so they manage
(2) Whether urban women make themselves overburdened by opting to be working women?
We are in the 21st centuary so both men and women need to work to bring up a family. Its not a choice its a must... or you have the governement on ur backs to get a job....
(3) Whether or not Joint family system is a blessing or need of our society?
Joint family system doesn't work in this day and age, even if the elders work at it the children don't like it and it goes down the drain as they start getting older.
(1) Whether or not rural women have better management skills than urban women?
Well in my opinion you've mentioned that rural women basically take care of the house and children and daily chores... whereas the rural women goes out and works....from alot of women i knw they do both, they go to work and manage home and children, so they manage .
My point was rural women are also involved in helping their husbands / brothers at the stage of crop harvest. yes, I know urban women who manage both sides, but its very difficult for them where don't have support that is available to rural women due to joint family system.
QUOTE Whether urban women make themselves overburdened by opting to be working women?
We are in the 21st centuary so both men and women need to work to bring up a family. Its not a choice its a must... or you have the governement on ur backs to get a job....
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Agree, nowadays both men and women have to work to make both ends meet. Rural women have been helping hand to the men since cenuries. If you ever visited rural Sindh and Punjab, you can observe women working in cotton fields having children with them (attached to their backs through a chaadar). Working women in urban (especially in South Asia) is comparatively a new phenomon and not too old in European countries. Point is rural women, who is considered not contributing towards economy is a myth.
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(3) Whether or not Joint family system is a blessing or need of our society?
Joint family system doesn't work in this day and age, even if the elders work at it the children don't like it and it goes down the drain as they start getting older
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Why younger generation doesn't like to be part of joint family?
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My point was rural women are also involved in helping their husbands / brothers at the stage of crop harvest. yes, I know urban women who manage both sides, but its very difficult for them where don't have support that is available to rural women due to joint family system.
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We'll if a women is working in an office based job her joint family can't realy help her can they?
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Agree, nowadays both men and women have to work to make both ends meet. Rural women have been helping hand to the men since cenuries. If you ever visited rural Sindh and Punjab, you can observe women working in cotton fields having children with them (attached to their backs through a chaadar). Working women in urban (especially in South Asia) is comparatively a new phenomon and not too old in European countries. Point is rural women, who is considered not contributing towards economy is a myth.
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Yes I have seen this i agree they do contribute kind of towards theyre own family realy...whereas an urban women who works in a skilled job contributes towards the buiolding of her country..... with her skills she is able to help her child in learning skills at school and social life
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Why younger generation doesn't like to be part of joint family?
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Well most the younger generation rather work and build their own life and jobs and not be burdened with the rest of the families problems and chores
We'll if a women is working in an office based job her joint family can't realy help her can they?
By taking care of her children and providing relief for sharing her household work IMO.
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Yes I have seen this i agree they do contribute kind of towards theyre own family realy...whereas an urban women who works in a skilled job contributes towards the buiolding of her country..... with her skills she is able to help her child in learning skills at school and social life
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Rural women doing work in field saves the cost that otherwise her family has to bear, if they hire people outside. IMO most of the time rural women provide more quality time to her children
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Well most the younger generation rather work and build their own life and jobs and not be burdened with the rest of the families problems and chores
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Means modern life style lacks tolerance of your relatives (considering them as burden) and it revolves around only one's his/her own life.
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By taking care of her children and providing relief for sharing her household work IMO.
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This makes no sense to me
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Rural women doing work in field saves the cost that otherwise her family has to bear, if they hire people outside. IMO most of the time rural women provide more quality time to her children
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How can they provide more time to their children if they're strapped to their backs?
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Means modern life style lacks tolerance of your relatives (considering them as burden) and it revolves around only one's his/her own life.
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Well helping family is what you should do always if required..... my point was you can't live in each others pockets....you have to get on with your own lives.
How can they provide more time to their children if they're strapped to their backs?
Well helping family is what you should do always if required..... my point was you can't live in each others pockets....you have to get on with your own lives.
Joint family systm is not just for taking duties for others. Its more towards sharing your responsibilities.
Actually, we have brought in some concepts like personal privacy from western socities that are taking away beauties of life due to extended family bondings.
Each and everone should take care of their own responsibilty and getting help once in a while isnt a bad thing, thats what family are for.
Everone needs their own space and privacy thats why there are so many issues in asian families
Yes every system has its own problems. While Asian families now started feeling suffocated due to bondings of joint family system, western life also has problems like lonliness and tendency to leave the dearest ones in old age houses at their last stages of life.
PS: Joint family does not mean that an individual has to bear expenses of extended family. I do belong to joint family. My father has four brothers and although they live together in a house, but each one is responsible for the needs of his children. Its the sharing of happiness and grieves that keep us bonded. Yes at times problems do happen, but its a normal thing in all the relationships.
I want serious discussion 