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I have been taking mini vacations. Using some work related trips to just see places.
I'm still tired. I just want someone to provide for me and my dad is getting sick of it. He is just happy I'll no longer be a burden within a year. Kind of insulting honestly.
I wish my parents had listened to me back when I had a breakdown in calculus and I sobbed and asked them to just get me married so I don't have to deal with school anymore.
Did they listen? No.
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^ PCG, you got someone in Pakistan who u can visit? "Weok related trips" are really not vacations.
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Do I want to get killed?
Do I want to get killed?
Just stay home ...in Pakistan that is ..
What do you do when you get tired of your work?
I'm feeling run down. I am getting a bit burnt out, although nothing like the Big Burn Out of 2005. Oh man, do I not want to revisit that state of mind ever again.
But I am getting tired, and I work all day and I come home to a lonely apartment, and a nasty rat of a roommate, and I wonder to myself...why am I doing this again?
I wonder if I find the right man, and he makes enough to provide for both of us, am I going to become that woman that gives up everything I worked for to sit in front of a TV and munch on cookies?
And moreover, why is it that some women (i.e. the pretty ones) get to have that, but girls like me don't? Girls like me have to work work work, because one day, our parents will be dead and we will have to figure out ways to feed ourselves.
PYG: us girls who are married, who have worked in her lifetime at least ONCE for a steady period BEFORE marriage - can NEVER EVER stop giving up a career... even if hubby decides to shower you with good gifts and a secure life... with whatever little or alot he makes.
We all know it's a rat race out there. Once you take "some" time off, you get left back due to changes in technology. You need to keep upgrading your knowledge and need to be in the field to be successful.
I had quit my work after my second child was born... cause it was getting too much to handle. However, ALL that time that I QUIT I was feeling hollow from the inside. I felt dependent. I felt that a source of income which I could proudly call MINE had left me. Being career oriented you always have your own money, and there is no need to ask or GET permission from hubby to spend it on yourself. You are not dependednt on anyone's life!
I am very thankful to Allah for giving me a family life as well as the option to choose to be in the working fields. It use to be hell to handle everything, but I feel that I have survived that. Today I am still in the beginning new phase of my career because of my leave, but having the income at the end of the week gives me comfort. <---The COMFORT is well worth going through hell for!! ... because you always have to keep an option for yourself that what if something happens to hubby and he has to take time off from work? Then what? Then BOTH of you have no income. This thought keeps me motivated to work and have some savings on the side.
PYG - you are burnt out at work. IT happens when all we do is goto work and come back and the "graph" in lifestyle has still not "changed" for better. It is best to turn to God for help. Just once when your alarm goes off at 5AM, get up, and PREPARE yourself for Farz salat! Pray your namaz just once that day (if you don't pray everyday ofcourse ) You will feel the ENEGERY to face the day. Not only that it will keep you motivated to find a pathin your life that can help resolve your difficult times (of being lonely and working :( ).
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It's 3:19AM right now. I have given you a brief lecture on praying Farz namaz... I am crosssing my finger to be able to wake up for my Farz!
I still have to finish my work...it might take 1 1/2 more hours.
later...
You sound like a 70 year old woman. Honestly I wouldn't be too interested in somebody that just wants to sleep in and change a diaper. That just sounds lazy to me, and it starts annoying me after a while.
You can't want gender equality and then complain about why its not fair that women have to work, instead of just taking care of kids.
I just want someone to provide for me
You just set feminists all around the world back about 25 years with that statement. Bravo.
I am a working woman and I was a working woman before I got married too.
I too sometimes get exhausted esp when I was living a married life , it used to get just too much. But then I always Thanked Allah to make me capable enough to earn my living , buy myself my own meals. So many families here in Pakistan can barely make enough to live a quality life , whatever they earn is spent on food rest all the necessities are kept aside. How can we ignore the fact that Allah has shown so much love to us that we dont live our lives compromising on our basic needs.
Being married doesn't solve all your problems , I have had near death experience lately because i was soo badly sick. I had to spend approx Rs 1000 every day on my tests. Thank God I had my financial backup otherwise I wouldn't have got any help from my so called husband. Being married doesn't ensure that u will no longer be lonely. Atleast you dont have any bitter painful memories to live with.
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Ugh, I just re-read the thread. I suggest you take a good look at this picture and then think about why you're not married. I'm just being honest.
Anyways, I have to go work a 14 hour shift at the hospital. Good luck.
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UMDJazz, I don’t think you’ve been around on these forums long enough. I’m not feminist enough! 
now that’s something I haven’t heard before!
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Thanks ladies. I guess senioritis is just getting to me. Nice to know that some of you still work.
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I worked for few months while I was married but didn't like people bossing me around. I plan to work for some charity organization ...may be for UK wildlife trust when my boys grow up a bit inshallah.
aaah you dont know those charity organizations and NGOs. They are worst in abuse. My wife ko daura para tha khidmat-e-khalq ka here in Canada. So she volunteered for around a year at couple of organizations. Once for YOUTH organization and another 6 months teaching computers to ELDER PEOPLE.
It was pain without any gain … or may be its just Canada? 
PS: I had to ask her to leave the youth organization as she was alarmingly refererring to young men at her organization in her discussions even at home 
PS2: nah just kidding 
lolz…
I think it depends on the organization you’re working for. In Wildlife Trust you have to work on nature reserves without working and communicating with many people. And wildlife members are usually mature, educated and from high class so there’s few chances them being annoying.
But working with youth and old people is a hard job and I salute everyone who’s involved in working with these orgs.
PCG - I have been working for the last 15 years. I worked straight through college (and not part time). But I always have had a great work life balance. I can work from home, set my own hours and I have very little supervision as long as I meet the company's goals and objectives.
As you get into senior positions - you need time off to just veg. Get a change of scenery. I also think it's important to move around within a company or outside the company. Look for rotational assignment something that challenges you.
You can take some time off and see how you like it. Your personality seems like you enjoy working (but just not the routine and not so much of it)
Ideally I would love to work part time with my full time salary and benefits and seniority. (yeah right!)
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Everybody gets tired from what they are doing eventually. Some people can get by with mini-vacations; others can't.
In the past I have been able to take a mini-break and still feel energized enough to put my nose back to the grind. These days it seems that even a full week off from work is not enough.
Circumstances change and so do our moods. Nothing is permanent.
Do what you need to do to remain healthy.....physically and mentally.......if this means a change in your job then by all means look for something different or more flexible. The good thing is that you have an education that will allow you the freedom to pick and choose.
And moreover, why is it that some women (i.e. the pretty ones) get to have that, but girls like me don't? Girls like me have to work work work, because one day, our parents will be dead and we will have to figure out ways to feed ourselves.
Hey I am pretty, and I work. not so modest, I guess :)
What do you do when you get tired of your work?
I'm feeling run down. I am getting a bit burnt out, although nothing like the Big Burn Out of 2005. Oh man, do I not want to revisit that state of mind ever again.
But I am getting tired, and I work all day and I come home to a lonely apartment, and a nasty rat of a roommate, and I wonder to myself...why am I doing this again?
I wonder if I find the right man, and he makes enough to provide for both of us, am I going to become that woman that gives up everything I worked for to sit in front of a TV and munch on cookies?
And moreover, why is it that some women (i.e. the pretty ones) get to have that, but girls like me don't? Girls like me have to work work work, because one day, our parents will be dead and we will have to figure out ways to feed ourselves.
On a more serious note, women who work have more independence and freedom. You will not be bound to stay with your husband if one day he totally changes and becomes a total jerk. Women who don't have careers on the other hand find it very tough to be independent incase their marriage doesn't work out.
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I think this burnt out feeling has a lot to do with whether you like your job or not. when I started my first job after graduating, there was a time in that position when I would want the weekend to end so I could get back to work. I loved the stuff I was working on and the ppl I was working with... eventually the romance wore off... and I got a new job some months ago... a job that is supposed to be pretty sexy... but I hate it with a passion. now, I want the weekend to never end.. feel mentally exhausted all the time....
anyway, the sad thing for us guys is that we can't just put our feet up and say that the wife will take care of the money if somewhere along the path, we took a wrong turn and ended up in a place where we didn't want to be. must be nice to have the stay at home option. I gotta find me a sugar mama or something man...