how can u give 100% to your job while still putting your child(ren) first?
I find myself (at least once a week) knocking off early to pick up my daughter or trying to overcome tiredness and keep awake..
the latest is, i forgot to put her jumper in her bag… so i had to run out, catch the train and give that to the childcare and then train back..
sometimes i think i should just move closer to her childcare.. that’d be a lot easier for me..
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Some jobs are now offering daycares within the building or letting the parents bring their kids to work.
I'm so glad I'm not in your situation because I would probably go nuts!
Perhaps check lists would help so you know that you've got everything completed on both ends?
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^ yeah, my hubby's workplace were going to offer that but didnt go ahead... pity. I think I'll start looknig for a job closer to the childcare. It'll make life easier... maybe?
Checklists.. thats a good idea.
We just a had a scene this morning where my daughter threw up in the cot (which she was "uh ohing" about quite happily ) so we had to bathe her.. everythign was crazy..
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isnt it possible for u to go part time or stop working because it becomes very hard to juggle work home n children .. until ur daughter is a bit more older.
or perhaps close day care is also a good option
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^just because something is hard, doesnt mean one should just quit altogether :)
My daughter is Mashallah nearly 2, so i think childcare is good for her. She's loving it now. So i dont want to take the away from her.
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haha yup thats is the spirit i ws just giving an option ofcorse you dont have to take it :)
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I think you should move to an area that will allow these things to flow a bit more smoothly for you. Children are so unpredictable and you never know when a tiny little catastrophe like the throwing up you mentioned will happen. I would either move to a central location that will put you closer to job and daycare or I would switch the daycare closer to my job/home. It would probably be best to be closer to home...that way if you forget or need something...you can just run and get it. Keeping it closer to your job would be a bit more difficult I would imagine.
Sadz, I personally think a job should not be over any kid. I gave up my good paid full time job for a part time job, so I can handle both. A kid needs a lot of attention. Just this weekend we were both busy with a iftari party at home and we kind of neglected her and now she has lost some weight even though we were giving her food, she just stopped eating.
Fortunatly I have work/childcare and my mom at walking distance to my home, so if somethign happens I can run to her and be there in 10 minutes and in 10 at home.
From my experience there is no way u can give 100% to your job and manage kids/household at the same time, for that u need to be a superwoman or sarah palin. something has to be at the hold.
With my arrangement at the moment, I work as to keep myself busy and occupied and my daughter has fun at the kindergarten and I pick her up and spend the afternoon and evenings with her, give her a lot of time then. My work is imporant but not the most important thing at the moment.
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just a question, why don't you get a car?, I mean running errands becomes easier on a car then public transport, public transport is never reliable.
honestly you're quite a gal for what you go thru!, Salutes from me! :)
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^ I agree!
We dont know her life or what she is going through. She is doing the best she can. Since we have no idea what her circumstances are...I would feel terrible saying she is putting her job/work above her children. No mother would do that and I dont think she is.
Why should she stay home and twiddle her thumbs while her daughter is in daycare? She can very well work and support her husband if she chooses. She can also stay home if she chooses. She is asking for ideas on how to make the best of her schedule the way it is.
Also, I think daycare is a good thing for children. I have a niece that lives with me right now and she is the ONLY child. When she is with us, she is a dream. BUT when there are other kids around...she doesnt know how to behave. She is so used to getting her way, its difficult to tell her not trample on other kids. These social skills are learned in daycare as well as other things. She will learn to make friends, share, rules, routines, etc. I was SO opposed to daycares before my niece was born but now I am pro-daycare.
Kudos!
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Oh and one more thing...where I live...getting a car only complicates things. There is SO much traffic here its quicker to hop on a train. If I drive, it takes me two hours to get to work. If I take the train in, even if it makes every scheduled stop, I still make it in 50 minutes.
I dont know if thats the case for you Sadzzz but thats how it is here.
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Its tough and the episodes of guilt are a norm, you'll find that even a few years down the road the guilt remains.
Ive gone through it myself, even harder since Im doing it alone and donot have the liberty of having parents closeby.
You'll get used to it, in my case I have the advantage of working nights so I have my mornings free to attend school functions and soccer games.
Oh and one more thing...where I live...getting a car only complicates things. There is SO much traffic here its quicker to hop on a train. If I drive, it takes me two hours to get to work. If I take the train in, even if it makes every scheduled stop, I still make it in 50 minutes.
I dont know if thats the case for you Sadzzz but thats how it is here.
ghareeb log! it takes me two minutes to get to work using my honda acaaard.
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^ abay there isnt much traffic in gaoons except for a few cows and sheep :halo:
hey no makin fun of my cows addy!! 
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moOo00oo0oO 
^ I agree!
We dont know her life or what she is going through. She is doing the best she can. Since we have no idea what her circumstances are...I would feel terrible saying she is putting her job/work above her children. No mother would do that and I dont think she is.
Why should she stay home and twiddle her thumbs while her daughter is in daycare? She can very well work and support her husband if she chooses. She can also stay home if she chooses. She is asking for ideas on how to make the best of her schedule the way it is.
Also, I think daycare is a good thing for children. I have a niece that lives with me right now and she is the ONLY child. When she is with us, she is a dream. BUT when there are other kids around...she doesnt know how to behave. She is so used to getting her way, its difficult to tell her not trample on other kids. These social skills are learned in daycare as well as other things. She will learn to make friends, share, rules, routines, etc. I was SO opposed to daycares before my niece was born but now I am pro-daycare.
Kudos!
You just said what I was thinking. This thread is not about whether working a job is more important than being there for your child, I think its about how to better manage both and remember certain items. My son is starting childcare again this Monday & I am a bit anxious, but I really like this new facility he is going to. Everything is so clean & brand new. Plus I really felt good about the instructors, their personality...e.tc. Anyways I definitely agree with making a checklist...maybe post it in a high traffic area...like the fridge. That way do a quick run through of the list to make sure you have the essentials. What we did was keep a few essential extras at the daycare...so even if we forgot, it would be there. Aside from the milk/food I try to pack his diaper bag the night before to make sure I have everything and do a double check in the morning.
AI agree with this poster that kids learn so much in daycare, granted its a good one. This one they have a schedule of things they do, and in the afternoon the children have 1 on 1 sessions with a teacher and get to do whatever they want. They have so many different tables set up as stations to do different activities/arts/crafts...also reading/music/dance time...nap time...etc. Once he adjusts I am sure he will love it.
ghareeb log! it takes me two minutes to get to work using my honda acaaard.
Thats because you have an Acaaaard...now if you had a Honda Accord...it would only take you one minute...
LOL
You just said what I was thinking. This thread is not about whether working a job is more important than being there for your child, I think its about how to better manage both and remember certain items. My son is starting childcare again this Monday & I am a bit anxious, but I really like this new facility he is going to. Everything is so clean & brand new. Plus I really felt good about the instructors, their personality...e.tc. Anyways I definitely agree with making a checklist...maybe post it in a high traffic area...like the fridge. That way do a quick run through of the list to make sure you have the essentials. What we did was keep a few essential extras at the daycare...so even if we forgot, it would be there. Aside from the milk/food I try to pack his diaper bag the night before to make sure I have everything and do a double check in the morning. AI agree with this poster that kids learn so much in daycare, granted its a good one. This one they have a schedule of things they do, and in the afternoon the children have 1 on 1 sessions with a teacher and get to do whatever they want. They have so many different tables set up as stations to do different activities/arts/crafts...also reading/music/dance time...nap time...etc. Once he adjusts I am sure he will love it.
This is a good idea...prepare things the night before so you dont forget anything in the morning chaos...
:biggthumb
Oh and one more thing...where I live...getting a car only complicates things. There is SO much traffic here its quicker to hop on a train. If I drive, it takes me two hours to get to work. If I take the train in, even if it makes every scheduled stop, I still make it in 50 minutes.
I dont know if thats the case for you Sadzzz but thats how it is here.
this is one of the many reasons I hate living in downtown (esp in the west), you can't get much work done, you want to get a chocolate bar, you have to drive through traffic for an hour to get to the stores, I live in the residential area and we've got pretty much all we need right there, we got a children's day care, primary school, middle school, high school all in one place plus we got a supermarket, a hospital, and all the basic necessities that you might not find in western residential neighborhood, and since my place of work is right at the edge of the downtown, I can take the highway on the outskirts and get to work with out the usual weekday morning rush hour as well.
well you see the infrastructure of Kuwait is quite different from the average western state (like NY), here every area (well since Kuwait is so small it doesn't have states) has been given its own personal educational centers, its own health and safety centers, its own security centers (such as the police station), its own supermarkets, its own commercial and entertainment centers (such as cinema's and arcades) and shopping malls, own restaurants and pretty much everything else that you won't find in the typical western suburb.