Thats how it is here for us too…Im in Chicago. We have suburbs that have been allotted their own police station, daycares, markets, malls, etc. I live in a suburb. However, that doesnt mean you will find work in the same area. 
I have a LONG commute to my job and dont know if that is the case for the poster.
The problem is there are SO many people and everyone decides to go to work the same time I do!!! LOL!!! 
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hey PSquared and Afro-Sheen.. thanks for that! :)
I dont think im putting my job infront of my daughter. And my time after work is completely devoted to her.. neways, this thread isnt about whether im a good mother or not, i just needed to know how people are better managing their worklife and children...
AhmedNSX, public tranposrt is the best thing if ur working in the city. Its a lot more convenient than the car. Even going home, i prefer the bus. My hubby uses the car to drop off and pick up my daughter.. hence, i use public transport...
Afro-sheen.. yeah good idea. I do try to pack her bag everynight and we generally do. These days my daughter has an obsession with her jumpers, so i had hid it in my bag and forgot to put it back in her bag..
The childcare bubz goes to is amazing. We provide nothing but our child :) and Mashallah she's learning so much there.. :)
PSquared.. thank u for all ur kind words
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Another thing... i do live closeby to my parents but am moving a bit futher away in a few months time..
the thing is, i dont want to rely on anyone. I should be able to do things myself. My parents did it with three kids and they had noone here... we should be able to do it with one munchkin :)
it really is a luxury to have parents around... but i really enjoy fending for myself. It gives me, i dunno, i real sense of myself and i love it
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Anytime girly! Good luck with your tiny one! :)
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thanks mate :)
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^ I agree!
We dont know her life or what she is going through. She is doing the best she can. Since we have no idea what her circumstances are...I would feel terrible saying she is putting her job/work above her children. No mother would do that and I dont think she is.
Kudos!
Is nice to see how ppl twist words to make others opinions look different. sheesh
I dont have time to read all post or reply to every thread but let me make it clear for you just in case if this was pointed towards me, I never said she is putting her job above her work, from all I have read of sadzz, she is the last mohter that would be doing so, I was just telling my own circumstances of how I managed to do both ......so it would be nice if we dont make this into a battle ground.
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Did you see the little arrow that was pointing to the poster above me or did you miss that?
Are you AhmedNSX? He said she is quite a gal for what she does...and I agree.
If you didnt mean it that way, then you dont have anything to worry about now do you?
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This is a very big issue for me and something I find myself thinking about everyday. Me and my husband will be doctors inshallah and I have no idea how I will manage taking care of the house and my career at the same time. Alhamdullilah I am strong enough to handle them both but I want to be able to strike a well defined balance between the two which I believe is impossible.
My FIL is chief executive of his very own accounting company and my MIL is a professor of Arabic studies and one thing I admired about them is how they always managed to make time for their kids and home. My MIL cooks, works and raised wonderful kids. They have a cleaning lady but thats besides the point lol.
My dad is also a doctor and mommy a teacher and they as well managed to strike a good balance between juggling careers and family life. I am surrounded by all these wonderful role models so while at times it does worry me I believe that working parents are at an advantage of having the best of both worlds: education, career and a family life!
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working parents are miserable ,guilt ridden,harrassed and haggared looking species :sigh: my venting was due
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^ lol hahaha.. well if people are supportive, it becomes something to be proud of. My mum has been so proud of me for the past couple of months as ive been able to manage three things at once... its hard.. im still trying to figure out to how give 100% to everything..
desigirl.. i totally understand. But, when the time comes, u honestly can do anything! thats what ive found.. i never thought i could be a working mother and still manage the house.. but i have a very supportive hubby (who happens to make me cranky cus he overcares) and a family whose there to egg me on...
best of luck with ur career and family life!
^ lol hahaha.. well if people are supportive, it becomes something to be proud of. My mum has been so proud of me for the past couple of months as ive been able to manage three things at once... its hard.. im still trying to figure out to how give 100% to everything..
desigirl.. i totally understand. But, when the time comes, u honestly can do anything! thats what ive found.. i never thought i could be a working mother and still manage the house.. but i have a very supportive hubby (who happens to make me cranky cus he overcares) and a family whose there to egg me on...
best of luck with ur career and family life!
thanks sadzzz yes a supportive and caring husband is totally a MUST for us working ladies
haha he is overcaring? hey that cant possible be a bad thing!
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hmm yea support is a must. although sometimes when u r tired and cranky the egging on can either lift your mood up incredibly or simply drive u raving mad.
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^ totally hear ya girl..
desigirl.. hahaha sometimes the overcaring gets me even more mad. I think the lack of sleep, over tiredness.. and jsut blah.. but na i love his support 
This is a very big issue for me and something I find myself thinking about everyday. Me and my husband will be doctors inshallah and I have no idea how I will manage taking care of the house and my career at the same time. Alhamdullilah I am strong enough to handle them both but I want to be able to strike a well defined balance between the two which I believe is impossible.
My FIL is chief executive of his very own accounting company and my MIL is a professor of Arabic studies and one thing I admired about them is how they always managed to make time for their kids and home. My MIL cooks, works and raised wonderful kids. They have a cleaning lady but thats besides the point lol.
My dad is also a doctor and mommy a teacher and they as well managed to strike a good balance between juggling careers and family life. I am surrounded by all these wonderful role models so while at times it does worry me I believe that working parents are at an advantage of having the best of both worlds: education, career and a family life!
Though its not always the case, but I know someone who is a doc, along with his wife. They have their own clinics and arent even super busy but I must say their kids turned out to be extremely 'bigrey hoey'. Their eldest daughter is now 22 but she has absolutely no regards for grown ups. Same is the case for his younger kids. She would just come back home from the pool in a bathing suit infront of other uncle and aunties and whine about stuff infront of guests. Their youngest was caught doing 95 on a 45 zone and just got his license revoked for reckless driving. Both parents wish they'd go back in time and do things differently as far as raising the kids are concerned.
If youre a doctor, your lifes already hectic, you are always on call and if your wife has to undergo the same routine, I dont blame the kids for turning out like that.
Though its not always the case, but I know someone who is a doc, along with his wife. They have their own clinics and arent even super busy but I must say their kids turned out to be extremely 'bigrey hoey'. Their eldest daughter is now 22 but she has absolutely no regards for grown ups. Same is the case for his younger kids. She would just come back home from the pool in a bathing suit infront of other uncle and aunties and whine about stuff infront of guests. Their youngest was caught doing 95 on a 45 zone and just got his license revoked for reckless driving. Both parents wish they'd go back in time and do things differently as far as raising the kids are concerned.
If youre a doctor, your lifes already hectic, you are always on call and if your wife has to undergo the same routine, I dont blame the kids for turning out like that.
True being a doctor does make life hectic but that is what me and hubby really want to do in life. Alhamdullilal Allah has given us the mental and physical capacities to achieve that so we will definitely do so. The family you are referrring to sound like many. I know a family whose dad is a cab driver and the mother stays at home and the kids are still "bigery hoey" You cannot possibly blame profession for those kids though it may play a small part.
It all depends on the parents and what is more important to them. I would never pick my career over my family, in fact it would be vice versa. My FIL makes so much money mashaallah but never once have i seen my husband or my SIL or BIL brag/show off. Their parents have instilled in them morals, values and a deep understanding of Islam which I totally respect. I as a parent would want to be home as much as possible and I would most probably pick a specialty that would allow me to stay home most of the time. Hubby wants to go into orthopedic surgery so I have to pick something easier and more family friendly. Trust me its doable.
if both parents are highly educated - why do they let themselves go when it comes to their own kids. They do not give enough time to their own kids.... and some people also have this mentality that spoiled bratz means "rich parents" - some people do want to show off that their kids are spoiled bratz... well it only comes and haunts them later in life. I think every parent must discipline their children no matter how rich and comfortable they are...
desigirl786 - if you and your partner are in med school and will become doctors - Please let me assure you that if you plan things out, everything will work for your benefit.
What I mean is yes it's extremely difficult for women to juggle a career, be that perfect wife, a role model mom, and an extremely obedient daughter-in-law. We are tested more in life because we have to take a career break to take care and raise children. HOWEVER, personally I believe in taking a few years break to raise kids - and then to continue with your career... once your kids are little older you will have plenty of free time when they are in school full time...
so plan it out - and I hope things work out well for you...
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Psquared and Desigirl786, u two should have different avatars! u're confusing the hell outta me!
Psquared and Desigirl786, u two should have different avatars! u're confusing the hell outta me!
lol -true - seems like it's one person taking to herself.... freaking then you hafta look at the name