Working at a relationship

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Re: Working at a relationship

@TLK

it can be worked out. Granted that it might require a lot of sacrifice from the party that is the victim of that abuse but its still can work out. I know cause i’ve seen that working out. Eventually husbands realizes that his side of the family is overly interfering and he would stand up for the rights of his wife.

Yeah I am sure it can be worked out if the party is given a chance to sacrifice. I’ve seen plenty of cases where the guy has sent his wife to her parents’ place and he refuses to speak to her because his parents demanded he do so. I’ve also seen cases where the girl leaves for her parents’ place and refuses to come back or compromise because her parents think she deserves better. Also, it’s not always the guy’s family who is constantly interfering. Majority of cases do involve that but sometimes it’s the girl’s parents as well. In such circumstance, the ‘sacrificing’ party does want things to work out, but the other party just wants out.

I think it’s rather immature to say divorces can be avoided. Sometimes they just can’t and that’s ok. Because if they really could have been avoided at all costs, Islam would have never given us this right. Also marriage is such a personal matter that you as an outsider have no idea what goes on behind those closed doors. So it’s not right to make judgments about two people getting divorced.

Anyways, in our culture working at a relationship often involves working at many different relationships that come along with it and sometimes these external relationships can make your work towards the actual relationship seem meaningless.