Working After Marriage

Lifestyle Relationships
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This question is for the ladies. Say you’re married to a guy who brings in enough of a salary to provide the family with a middle class (or upper class) type of lifestyle. Would you then stay at home with the kids, at least while they were young? What if he asked you to?

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Re: Working After Marriage

If it were my choice, maybe.

If he asked me to, then yes.

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Re: Working After Marriage

no if he asked me to!

yes if I felt like it and most likely I will either go part time or stay at home after kids!

Call me a rebel but I dun like being told!

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Re: Working After Marriage

LOL GTG

I think working for anyone is a bit more than just about bringing home a salary.

It's a mutual decision but 80% of it's a woman's choice whether she can manage a career and kids, or she would like to take time off and invest that time in her children.

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Re: Working After Marriage

why would an educated woman today NOT want to work? apart from the time when kids are young etc...

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Actually I read an article about lots of women who hold JDs and MBAs from places like Harvard and Princeton choosing to leave the workplace to spend time with their children. Google "opt out revolution". That's what got me thinking about this. Not women who have to work, but if they have a choice what would they do? The important thing though is that it's their choice and no one is forcing them to. I just find it weird how some women totally devalue the mother-child bond. And on the other hand, some men wrongly think that if they bring home the money their wives are second class citizens.

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Re: Working After Marriage

I would stay home when my kids were young as a personal choice. My mom was home and nothing can replace that time I spent with her. :)

I wouldnt have a problem staying home if he asked.

I would have a problem if he forced it on me and didnt talk/ask me about it.

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Re: Working After Marriage

**I won't stop working. But I'll maybe start working part-time.

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If I had young children, I wouldn't work until they're a little older. Why would anyone want to miss out on the opportunity of raising and bringing up their kids? Why bring them into the world if you want to leave them to work?

Personally, I would work after marriage, but after having a kid I would stay with the kid for at least 2-3 years, and then work part-time until the kid started school. I think the first 2 years are very vital and should be spent with the child.

I was in the hands of a babysitter since I was 4-5 months, and while growing up I never wished anything more than for my mom to stop working and spend time with me.

Having a career is okay, but one should never put it before family.

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When we were expecting our first child, my husband and I discussed whether I should remain at work or not. We both decided that I should stay home and until the 2nd child was born, I had the opportunity to work from home just because I enjoyed it but later, gave that up as well.

I wouldn't take offense if my husband had asked me to quit because I hopefully would be aware of his intentions. I guess many women continue to work because they enjoy it not necessarily for the money alone. But then some of us prefer to stay home.

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Re: Working After Marriage

I'd love to be stay home dad if my wife decide to work full time :)

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I have no idea how I'll be as a mother... but I just started working part time after a long break (6 months). I won't lie, for the first few months I loved not working and just relaxing but then it got extremely frustrating being at home.... Not to mention people can be terribly unkind towards housewives. But now I enjoy working and feeling productive etc

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i work because I enjoy working, so I wouldn't stop even for kids. I'd probably take some maternity leave but then expect my husband to take paternity leave too because it wouldn't be fair for me just to have to stay home with them all the time.

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Re: Working After Marriage

^ good luck with ur marriage

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only if all women can think like you.

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what if your boss told you to do something :D

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Re: Working After Marriage

I work full time right now. But I think that when Im a mom, I would want to stay home with the kids atleast while they're young. So, I'd definitely be OK if I was asked. And idk how much free time one would have, but it would be a good time to take some classes, and catch up on other things I've never pursued because of work comittment. And when the kids are older, I think I would want to go back to work at least part time.

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Re: Working After Marriage

Ive always worked, apart from the time off when i had my munchkin. Took a year a bit off then.

Although the hubz gets worried about me working (in relation to the tiring and exhausting factor) I dont think he would like me to stop working... plus, it aint feesable

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Re: Working After Marriage

*Unless he's making enough to buy me jimmy choos every month, I'm working. *

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Sugar mama :)