Women's Second Marriage!

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Re: Women’s Second Marriage!

@SweetLady

My sis has had her nikah done 1.5 yeara ago.
Her inlaws were okay in the beginning…but now suddenly they have changed… Like demanding uberly weird things in the jahez (want doubl/extra things) …when my mum agreed on the first demands they started again demanding next things, so mum n dad didn’t agreed… Now the FIL of my sis is sayin things like “larki europe ki hey…humeyn kya pata key kesi ho” i mean wthell 1.5 saal baad pata challa key larki europe ki hey :s (boy s in pk) …

Things r gettin so out of hand that my sis is on the edge of a divorce… Mum s spacing out but says that she doesnt want her daughter to end up in such a hell …but on the other hand ahe is scared of the lable “divorce” cuz there won’t b many people who will accept a divorcee girl (even if she is a virgin and has just a nikah wthout nythin else) (thats what mom thinks)

I just wanted to discuss it here cuz it was about talaak… Plz pray thatm sis doesnt get any talaak…cuz she really loves her husband…and doesnt want to have talaak on auch a young age ..just a month before her wedding

I really feel sorry for your sister. I know its too easy to say and difficult to bear but still, I would say its better to be away from such a person (Or family) than living your entire life with them.

If your sister loves him anyway and if he loves her too, then I would say, May Allah bless this couple and make it a better a couple in future… and give right paths and directions to the groom’s entire family! Amen.

@Insaaniyat

Sorry I don’t agree. Even though I am a man.
Hindus have historically aleays been more polygamous than Muslims. If you check the statistics of the 1950s and 1970s the proportion of polygamous Hindus were greater than the proportion of polygamous Muslims. And many Hindu gods were polygamous, some of them with 10000 wives and many Hindus back in the old days used to have multiple wives, with their scriptures allowing them 3.
And simply because polygamy is prevalent in the upper classes of the gulf countries does not mean women there take kindly to it. For instance, a woman was in the news for committing suicide with her kids when her husband took a second wife in Jeddah. Another woman burnt her husband’s wedding reception in Dubai. Attitudes to polygamy there are similar to the ones in Pakistan. In Egypt for instance polygamy is seen as the betrayal of the first wife for the pleasure of the husband and the second wife.
And does anyone actually bother checking the statistics??? Or do ppl still rely on Zakir Naik’s made-up statistics.
There are MORE men than women in the world today. For instance the ration of men to women in KSA is 112 men to 100 women and still the selfish rich sheikhs practise polygyny, that is why it is so hard for the middle class and poor men there to find a wife. They all marry the richer blokes.
I think you are feeling this way because you are going through a divorce. Not ALL men have those kind of attitudes. There are plenty of men who are divorced and widowed. There are also some men who wouldn’t mind marrying with a non-virgin with kids.** Even though I am single neither me or my family members would mind me marrying a divorcee even though I am single. But maybe thats because I am born and raised in the west so I am not obsessed with virginity.
**My divorced aunt of 10 years just got remarried recently and she is happy. She would have been happy without remarrying too as she made use of her education and worked rather than rely on any man.

I really appreciate that
I wish the entire world think the same way!!