Womens right to divorce, given by her husband

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Re: Womens right to divorce, given by her husband

A husband can give a divorce. The wife can ask the husband to give her a divorce. If he does not, then the wife can get a "khula" which is basically a divorce where the wife forfeits her Mehar. In most Pakistani weddings Mehar is not a huge thing i.e. its not paid as strictly but in other Muslim cultures mehar is a big deal so having to returan the Mehar might be a deterant for the wife to ask for a divorce. However, marriage in Islam is a revokable contract that's supposposed to be bargained for by both sides and just like a prenuputal agreement, the wife (or husband) for that matter can include conditions as they see fit, even conditions about a 2nd marriage, child custody their property whatever. Again this is only significant in an Islamic country, even in Pakistan the rules are more civli than Sharia, but if you live in a Islamic country it could be useful.

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Re: Womens right to divorce, given by her husband

^ That's what I tried to say in my post. Thanks.

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Kids will blame you only if you expose them to idiots who make them feel like second rate because their parents are not together - so its the womans responsibility to protect them from these words, she should be strong and she should strengthen her kids also against these kind of people - a mother can make her child turn out to be a warrior but she can also aid in making him a coward to peoples words

lady, I really think you need to reevaluate what you just called a woman who would leave her cheating despot of a husband

all this talk about people slandering her and abandoning her is fine and all but you know in the modern world a woman CAN get out and take care of herself, maybe not in the black hole of Calcutta where all she will think about is what behenji from next door said to her when they went to make rotis at the communal tandoor

and then the poor thing will go home and cry her eyes out

if shes stuck between shame for being a divorcee and leaving her husband she should just kill the man and become a widow - thats probably more respectable anyway , right?

and then, she could inherit his money and his family would still have sympathy for her and support her - and she shouldn't feel guilty about it either, just think of it as taking Gods law in her own hands

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yeah what a great father, carrying on behind his wife's back - no thankyou honey, I've seen plenty of these fathers and their kids turned out as messed up as kids can get and his daughter? She cant stop having panic attacks and he has been dead 3 years now

the faida would be trying to get unfaithful men AND women out there to think twice before they cheat on their spouse, to think about who they are deceiving and to actually consider having a conscience for once

You seemed really concerned about me telling someone's wife their husbands harkatein

I couldn't care less

You talk about pain... think about the pain a woman experiences when she discover's her husband has been going on the sly, whether it be here on this earth or before the entire world on the last day

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Re: Womens right to divorce, given by her husband

Are you Indian Kenjifu.

You didn't see the consequences after divorce or seperation or husband left. I did. So you don't understand. I know very well.

You bahan ji no matter where you live all our community behave same. We can't live without our community. This is the reason we come to this forum as we can't mingle with gorays.

You are a buchchi so can't understand things Allah na karay kisi larki aur us kay buchchon pay aisa waqt aay. Laikin jis pay parti hai wo samajhta hai aur bahtar janta hai.

There are types of mother wo apnay ashana kay saath bhag jaati hai apnay buchchon ko bhi chor kar to aisi bhi aurtain hoti hain jo buchchon ki khushi pay apni khushi muqaddam samajhteen hain. Haan laikin aisi aurtain kum hoteen hain.

What would you do if you have kids and your husbandd cheats even once and he ask your forgiveness and you get divorce for that reasong and during your divorce process you kids beg you "ammi abbu ko maaf kar dain" what would you do?

What if your husband keep cheeting and you have kids and you leave what would you do when you will need someone to have sex as it's an unviersal truth after some time you need someone then what would you do? Marry someone else what you have a jawan beti would you marry someone else?

Timepass - November 2012
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You didn't see the kids for whom their mom did sabar on all the cheating and marrying to other lady by her husband.

They got education got great job and great position and they did whatever good was possible to their mom.

Yes she paid the price for her kids. Didn't marry for the sake of her kids. I saw the tarapna and everything of that lady but she said yay meray buchchay meray us shohar ki jagah hon gay. She refused to marry. She refused to go to her parents home. She remain with her husband.

Her kids are the kids ppl dieing to marry them.

You don't know without husband how ppl behave to kids and lady. I saw those.

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What would I do? For one thing nothing.

My family would take care of me till I was independent. And that is how we should all be with our daughters AND our sons. And as for the kids, I would deal with them in a manner that suited the situation.

Islam gives the woman the right for a divorce. Its not haram. Its there for a reason. Islam also has punishments for those who commit adultery. There is a reason for everything.

And frankly, the community that does not support a woman in such a position aren't worthy of her time. But I can honestly tell you that I have known many communities where women have divorced and have successfully found another husband, yes its not an easy ride but anythings possible, you just have to believe in yourself.

And yeah I may be young, but let me tell you a secret. I've been through more than any girl my age should have been through and I have learnt that the wounds that don't kill you only make you STRONGER.

Wear your scars with pride friend, and move forward. Learn from your experiences and teach your children about being just and honest, fair and loyal. Those people that don't want to marry them and can't see the wonderful characters they have aren't worth the time of day. Those that will see them for who they truly are are the right people.

And if a man did that to my daughter?

God help him.

p.s. I am not Indian. Pakistani, born and raised. (well not for very long in pk)

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I knew that from the way and your tone that you are an Indian that's why I asked.

Your soach is purely indian girls. Indian girls are so bold.

I liked your this post much better.

Sometimes halaat aap ko wo kuch karwa detay hain jo aap soach bhi naheen saktay aur kar guzartain hain jub kay aap aisa karnay walay naheen hotay.

Everything depends.

I saw Indian girls are so selfish don't mind it. They leave husband go for another marriage. Yeah sub himmat ki baat hai.

I saw Indian girl set another men before divorce then get divorce or without divorce marry another man. I saw this with my own eyes.

Shareef larkion ki himmat naheen hogi shohar ko chornay ki aur doosra dhoondhna aur patana to shreef larkion kay liaay na mumkin si baat hai.

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I don't have time for this

p.s.

I am not Indian

*mai hindustan se nahi hoo, me confident aur independant pakistani larki hu
*
ana bakistani

(i'm sorry i only know urdu, I would try for punjabi but really its not my forte and i dont want to embarress any punjabi speakers out there with my pathetic attempts so I will leave this now and go to bed, and try to ignore the immense anger I have on behalf of all those misunderstood unfortunate girls who are put down in trying to get out of terrible marriages - I guess all I can do now is pray for them)