Double standards of Pakistani young men are horrendous.
Their parents’ values and secretly their own are aspiring to find a timid, beautiful, rich young women for themselves, as daughter-in-laws and as wives … but before that, these men chat with women on-line, they date with them, and go beyond it…
Yet when a woman simply wants to make sure that with getting to know a man herself, intellectually, ideologically through communication, on-line or in- person, she lives under the fear that her character is or will be out on stake, for the double standards that these men, & the society at large, has accepted and formed against her.
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Best thing to do is avoid families that think like that, in hopes that natural selection will weed them out of the gene pool. You know, idiots marrying idiots breeding further idiots who can't survive to reproduce because of ridiculously low IQ's.
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i would request one thing - please in maintaining the sizzle of our good or bad comment on this issue which i brought to ur attention, do not rig each other due to plain mistaken perceptions about each others' situations. If all who posted so far are females in real, we should rather be sharing our common concerns rather than rebuking and/or cursing each other to damned plight of " misery". Who knows, misery befalls those who do marry under pressures of increasing age or family expectations. Single women, who are self-respecting and also clearly know what material (character qualities, "seerat", status, life philosophy, background, intellect, richness, and handsomeness, as well as shape and size of course :>) they desire in their future husbands, ought to think up better ways to deal with the mockery and double standards in the methods the opposite side employs to find equally "nice" spouses.
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no thats not rotten..thats just how our culture is. There are different roles/expectations for both genders. Even our religion has different standard for both male and female.
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well in our religion ...i dont think even guys can do much pursuing...khair but thats different from our culture..wheres it okay for guys to go after girls but not vice versa..and usually culture triumphs religion..
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Yeah well culture is kinda fked up n very unfair against women.. if Islam has no prohibitions on a woman searching for her own husband, what right does "culture" have to do so?
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Women are allowed to make the first move in Islam. Plenty of women wanted to marry the Prophet (SAW), and expressed interest, albeit in a proper manner.
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LOL funny thread...but shows still after so many yeaRs, desi mentality hasn't opened up that much.....still men and women are not considered equal, even like my brother has so much freedom at 18 that I never had and still don't. Like im old enough and still not allowed out till 1am not that I wanna go out till 1am but it would be nice to have the option...
I guess us girls have to wait untill we are married to 'chill'.....and that's only if we end up with a guy that's cool enough!
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Double standards of Pakistani young men are horrendous.
Their parents' values and secretly their own are aspiring to find a timid, beautiful, rich young women for themselves, as daughter-in-laws and as wives ... but before that, these men chat with women on-line, they date with them, and go beyond it...
Yet when a woman simply wants to make sure that with getting to know a man herself, intellectually, ideologically through communication, on-line or in- person, she lives under the fear that her character is or will be out on stake, for the double standards that these men, & the society at large, has accepted and formed against her.
How rotten is that?
I agree there are double standards but is it from the men side.? i mean it is the parents who r looking for a fairy like DIL rather to be specific it is the mother...
So adding this mis doing in the register of men is not right.
Else i agree with u.. parent should be honest about their children and should know wot they r and be honest with the girl's family too.
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^^ very true!! that’s why i support PCG view that WE should change things and take ourselves the step to marry who we want…and in families that accept it :k:
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well my mom says its better women find themselves their own men .referring to those women who go out n study n make a career for themselves.
that way parents both side respect eachother .there is no one who is superior and all that matters is the wish of the children.
anyways its quite individualistic, the family setups i mean.
Re: Young Pakistani Women who hope to find men for themselves, are "made" to be losers.
Double standards of Pakistani young men are horrendous.
Their parents' values and secretly their own are aspiring to find a timid, beautiful, rich young women for themselves, as daughter-in-laws and as wives ... but before that, these men chat with women on-line, they date with them, and go beyond it...
Yet when a woman simply wants to make sure that with getting to know a man herself, intellectually, ideologically through communication, on-line or in- person, she lives under the fear that her character is or will be out on stake, for the double standards that these men, & the society at large, has accepted and formed against her.
How rotten is that?
double standards? men chat/date/do beyond with women...now aren't women involved? so then how come only men and their parents are to be blamed for double standards? it takes two to tango. if men date then they aren't really dating aliens u know. and women are dating then obviously either they have permission from their parents or are doing it on their own. same goes for guys. i don't think any sane parent will ask his/her son/daughter to go out and start dating for the sake of marriage. its everyones right to know the person b4 commiting themselves. now if women are dumb enough to listen to everything their parents have to say [no matter how idiotic/moronic it is] then its their own fault. if you'd let others to boss u around then heck they'd do it more and more. so stand up for yourself and your rights. for that you'd have to confront your parents. they are part of the very same society u so nicely blamed for all your problems. if you are not part of the problem then surely you are not trying anything to be part of the solution aswell. so stop playing the blame-game and do something for yourself. forget others.
…:k: i agree with you!!