Women say if you were raped, it is your own fault

I agree with this. This is not to say that the rapist is any less guilty or that it's a valid reason to reduce his sentence. But I would also feel more sorry for someone who has it happen to them while taking all of the precautions than I would for someone who's knowingly putting themselves in a situation where it's more likely to happen to them, whom I would also partially put the blame on.

It's like if someone just leaves their wallet or purse out in the open in a public place and then while they are distracted for a moment, someone walks off with it. Even though the thief had no right to steal someone else's things, I would still partially blame the victim for being so careless.