Even though this survey was probably done in UK in a corporate environment and so doesn’t hold true for other countries & all other fields of life but I believe this is an issue. Where I worked previously such cases were common, though not talked in public. One of the 60 year old deans at our school finally married her student assistant after she got pregnant.
This is not to say all good looking successful women reached their after sucking up to their bosses.
Do you guys think its an issue where you work?
If you have any statistics/survey about men being manipulative for job related gains then please do post. This post is not to bash women.
Opposites attract and work places are not an exception. I think its natural and should be taken as natural and ofcourse it all depends on one's own inclinations. Just as u said that one out of four had had this experience; the postitve thing is that three were out of this affair
Just to add on... there is a very fine line between flirting and harassment. To make it simple for you, when the boss decides to end the affair, he is likely to get slapped with a sexual harassment suit. Just to keep you aware.
Generally, as long as both are single, enjoy each other's company, and are at the same level in the organization, chances are that it won't go that route.
In all other cases, you are warned! :~)
Personally, the whole "office flirting" thingy is too dangerous. Even after you break-up, you still need to maintain a good working relationship with each other, professionally, so rules of the game are much stricter than flirting with people from outside your work environment.
If I remember correctly from a discussion show on TV about America's nuclear families; it was claimed that more men are involved in extramarital affairs at work than women. In other words, fewer (or the same) women are yada yada yada with greater number of men.
Though that was not what I wanted to discuss, but the issue of being manipulative or 'flirt' to get promotion, be in on things or not to get fired.
I deal with a lot of interns at work; and the gender ratio is about even. Sometimes I go through the same kind of scenarios & I have seen my colleagues go through it as well. The issue is not only with interns but due to previous massive lay offs (and future ones to come) with my peers too. People tend to suspect/allege based on the roomers that are sometimes true about a person's layoff (or not getting laid off) and sometimes not.
**Faisal **Bhai, wouldn’t you agree that there is also a fine line between flirting and being close.
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dont people esp. guys at work have more respect for women who dont cross the line? i.e. flirt? and stick to their work instead? surely that give them more chances of getting a promotion than degrading themselves by sleeping around like slags!
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Originally posted by armughal:
*just as a mother trusts her kid, but wont let him go out alone in the night....
she fears on him the world....
not mistrusts the child....
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There is a fine-line between adult and childhood. And you wife is not a child.
Sooner or later we all stand before God in judgment -- are you going to be in "smoking" or "nonsmoking"?
armughal, after reading your previous post, I seriously suggest that you put off marriage/relationship for the moment.
children are innocent, unaware and sometimes not capable of making the right desicion at the wrong time.
Your reference above considering your wife to children is highly immature of you. It shows that you are not ready yet to get into a relationship because you are not prepared to treat your potential partner as an adult they way she should be treated but as a thing you think you have the rite to possess.
I see you jumping to conclusion when it clearly says 'One in every Four women'
It is so unfair to forget the Three women, dontcha think?
marriage is not such a simple think to bet on even if the odds r 1:3....
my wife aint gonna work....
i wud not like other men staring at her....
or her falling in to trouble at work or while going to or coming back from work....
and i dont care if our home income is less than half of what it wud be if she wud be working....
and i dont consider any of u wise enuff to give me advises....
so u can keep em to urself....
for Muzna how do u expect a man to be flirting with a woman at work when everyone thinks like me and no woman goes to work....
try to understand and not just sheesh at everything....
google, i expect ppl here to have enuff brains to know that i aint comparing the age of my wife to a child but the physical strength and the susceptibility of being in trouble....
‘Rabbee zidnee`ilmaa’
My Lord! Increase me in knowledge.[20:114]
The Prophet (sallallaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) said:
“Whoever sets out on a path to seek knowledge, Allaah will make easy his path to Paradise.”
[Saheeh Muslim]
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Originally posted by armughal:
**marriage is not such a simple think to bet on even if the odds r 1:3....
my wife aint gonna work....
i wud not like other men staring at her....
or her falling in to trouble at work or while going to or coming back from work....
and i dont care if our home income is less than half of what it wud be if she wud be working....
and i dont consider any of u wise enuff to give me advises....
so u can keep em to urself....
for Muzna how do u expect a man to be flirting with a woman at work when everyone thinks like me and no woman goes to work....
try to understand and not just sheesh at everything....
google, i expect ppl here to have enuff brains to know that i aint comparing the age of my wife to a child but the physical strength and the susceptibility of being in trouble....
**
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I myself am very much against flirting in your workplace, be it boys or girls sheesh thats cheap!
Armughal, I kind of admire that you don't want your wife to work. In fact after working for several years, I feel that when I marry I will stop working. Let the man support his wife and childern, bring home the dough for food, rent, bills, cloths, education for kids, vacation and many more necessary things, and I will do my part in the house and raise his kids and he will get his two warm meal in the day. One thing I don't understand is the trust thing, like you dont trust others if your wife goes to work. Do you trust others if she goes shopping or if she tells you she is going to visit her parents or friends, what if she goes to her her bf instead, will you ever find out, what if you are way to work and thinking that your innocent wife is at home and waiting for you to come home, but instead she is enjoying her time with another guy. What I mean is this if a female wants to flirt or have relationship with other guy, there are hundred other ways as in her workplace, if you want to make sure, you know what she is up to, u'll have to lock her up in her room and install a webcamera where you can keep an eye on her and be sure that she is not going around to other guys.
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Originally posted by ahmadjee:
*One of the 60 year old deans at our school finally married her student assistant after she got pregnant.
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