As I stated this place needs a bit of testosterone, I will do the dirty deed and start a thread from the male perspective. Women in the work place. A generally positive development. I work in an office space which until 4 months ago had 3 aunties and 1 woman. Lets just say it wasn’t the most pleasant place to be.
Now that has changed. We have a much larger cadre of women in the ranks, and much less aunties. They are all relatively good looking, talkative and honestly I have seen the men become far more pleasant with the influx of women into the work environment. There there is that one.
That one is the woman with the killer body that would make Aphrodite jealous, and wears only enough clothing for her to be with the limits of the professional dress code. Most men are around her like flies on honey. Now she dresses like this on purpose. There is no way she can say she doesn’t. So she obviously wants and likes the attention she receives from her ample bosom straining against her shirt.
The question however is that should one give her that attention. My eyes are always a few inches above her face. I frankly don’t think its professional for me to look at her assets while we are working. Others have no such problem.
The question I have, she likes the attention, she dresses for it, might as well relax about right? Or should I shun her even though I have to work with her every now and then?
Its an assumption based on the clothes she wears and her general attitude. She wears small skirts, not minis. But damn close. Her shirts a majority of them are extremely form fitting. She leaves absolutely nothing to the imagination, and her top few buttons are always open. If you are standing and she is sitting at her desk, you get one hell of a view.
you can tell when somebody is behaving in a way to get attention. It shows in their facial expressions and body language.
I think it's unprofessional to be dressing in a cheap manner. One can dress professional and look classy at the same time. Is she even any good at her job? Or does she feel she can get by with a less than mediocre performance simply because she parades her barely covered well-formed assets around? If so, then why encourage her by ogling? At least SOMEONE at the workplace should show her that they value intelligence and personality over superficial qualities such as physical appearance. At least SOMEONE should behave as if it takes more than looks to attract meaningful, serious, and sincere attention from others.....otherwise you're just viewed as a piece of meat.
And I think it's better for people to receive attention for RIGHT/GOOD reasons such as outstanding work performance, or excellent character and interpersonal skills. With everyone oggling her....it will only send her the message that her appearance is what matters most and will get her places in life as opposed to developing other more lasting qualities.
Do you want to look at her? Are you trying to seek justification for looking at her? You're an adult, do whatever you want. Nobody is going to STOP you from checking her out. From an Islamic perspective, you're supposed to lower your gaze. But in the end, it's your decision. Like everyone else, you can give her the EGO-BOOST and SATISFACTION of looking at her head to toe.
I personally (and this may sound cruel) think it's fun to NOT GIVE someone the unnecessary superficial attention they're looking for sometimes. It's almost like fishing for compliments (and I know we're ALL guilty of doing that at times). But sometimes it's good.....even HEALTHY for a person to not receive vain attention.
I doubt it would KILL her if you avoid looking at her....but not doing so might stun her.....and who knows she might even chase you!
^ Yeah aankhon main aankhain daal k dekhnay se is liye IMPRESS ho gi.....because NO ONE has probably looked in her eyes before. To her it might even be a frickin novelty. LOOOOOL. Funny.....yet soooo sad!
CM looks to me u r already satisfying ur senses even with ur bund eyes.Avoid much contact with her if it bothers u.
Actually a few inches above her face is not the right thing.As a good muslim u should stare ur toes while talking to her.that will teach her a lesson
LMAO! Ah the male perspective. Looking into her eyes is a novel concept. I must try it. Though here is the problem. Considering her assets and me looking into eyes, a very different impression may be construed...
Gina frankly don't think its appropriate to look a female colleagues chest at work. If I look at her face, I get a full view of her chest. So If i look over her face, I frankly avoid the chest from my view.
Sexual harassment is a serious issue in my opinion and I hardly wish to make the lass uncomfortable. Though this begs the question is she actually uncomfortable with this attention?
Red velvet, she does good work. She is in an admin section, and she does her job well. I have to work with her on a day to day basis and its cumbersome. Work in the field, not a lot of females around and I am presently single. You can understand where I am coming from. While her actions or dress sense is enjoyable the side affects aren't.
And more importantly since I work with her I feel rather awkward in certain situations. I am no angel I have looked. And she has a rather attractive body. But frankly I have no desire to do so on a regular basis esp. since I work with her.
And I am surprised there is no character assassination.
