It does give you such peace of mind. Many women here will know what I mean when I say this.
Up until I had lived alone, I wasnt sure if I would ever be able to survive out there. I would always be dependant on my father and then husband and then children. What about my responsibility towards myself?
The smallest of things like ordering my cable, setting up my internet, buying furniture, painting, cooking, etc made me more and more confident in my abilities. It doesnt sound like much but until you do it, you never really know your full potential.
Now I know, no matter what happens...I will be okay. Inshallah.
this is exactly why i moved out too. i was extremely sheltered and not allowed to do much and it was extremely frustrating. i needed to know what my personal limits were and how i would do on my own- i never wanted to be simply passed on from father to husband. as hard as it was for everyone, i would do it all over again. perhaps i'd approach it differently, but certainly what i learned about being alone are not things i could have learned living at home with overprotective parents. even simple things like shopping for groceries was an eye-opener for me once i was on my own, not to mention the bigger things like managing finances and budgeting.
also, regarding the "i trust you, i don't trust the people around you" mentality- i don't get it at all. how can you let your child do anything if you don't trust the people around her? she'll be surrounded by people all her life. so no, you DO have to trust her and beyond that, you have to trust YOUR OWN capabilities as a parent and the fact that you've raised her right.