Re: Women Going Abroad
Well Pakistani guys don't like women to travel because they think a man should be around to show other men that someone is protecting her. Also since virginity is related to a girl's honor and respect in the society, the whole society is set around protecting that until marriage. So then even a simple thing like laughing out loud in public is seen as bathameez and being 'free'. So in such societies, the men are really deprived and look at any girl walking around alone like prey. So I wouldn't want my daughter living in an apartment and studying alone there.
However, in America, the guys aren't as deprived sexually so it is much safer.... So in a way, i benefit from the premarital relations of my neighbors! Like if a girl is walking around the bazaar alone in pakistan it's really bad, however here i can go to super walmart at 3 am and it's no problem. other than walmart, i've been able to go to key west with my sister, boston to my cousin's house, etc and they've all been memorable experiences. It's great to live independently.
however, it makes me sort of confused because im like, "i am a shareef person and want my girls to be too...yet i benefit from the safety created by immodest people...so how can i say bad stuff about them when i love the freedom given by their society?"