women : do you have different standards for mens looks, for affairs & commitment

[abubakrrizvi]

Re: women : do you have different standards for mens looks, for affairs & commitment

@Sara516

Yeah nowhere did I say where a good looking guy si devoid of personality and relationship qualities

You say there’s nothing wrong with maturing, yet dismiss it as “convenient to women”, which really makes it sound as if you believe they are resigning themselves toa life of disappointment, when that’s not always the case.

No woman willingly marries an ugly man, yeah she may not marry a supermodel but she’s not going to marry a totally ugly dude either.

I just don’t see what the big deal is, men have always had seemingly ridiculous standards (demanding virgins while they go after anything wtih a vagina), and so do women. It’s not going to change.

goodlooking guy - ugly guy.
thats a false dichotomy youre presenting there. there can be mediocre looking guys, reasonable looking guys and decent looking guys in between. for the purposes of casual f***ing, only the top quality is relevant to women and some women get dissapointed when they cant get ‘THAT quality guys’ to give them more than sex. i wouldnt call that ‘maturing’

yes, men, specially in pakistan have different standards for womens character/past when choosing wife and when choosing a sex-buddy. that is a well documented and acknowledged phenomenon, one that men are reminded of every now and then and one that i have no problems acknowledging. its just that i think women are never reminded about how their preferences affect men. womens biases when it comes to dating,sex and relationships are not pointed out as often. and the ‘big deal’ is to understand how our preferences affect the other gender.

i say its convenient to women because in the end. most women do get both their purposes fulfilled. they can have the fun with the best looking guys and get commitment with men who are stable and have long term qualities albeit lesser attractive. most men dont get to have both options. commitment is the only way for men who dont look like models, if they are to get any physical intimacy with women. think from a perspective of a regular looking guy who isnt keen on commitment and marriage …he is bound to get sexually suffocated.

ofcourse not all women have casual relationships specially in our society, but whether you deny it or not, we are becoming increasingly sexually liberated as a society…specially a certain segment of our society one that i consider myself to be a part of. too bad most men never get to reap the benefits of that liberation.