But I DO wear short sleeves.... someone please help me get more forward thinking like my husband wants me to be :@:
Maybe you need to wax your legs??
maybe? ..
Why do people post questions in life1 anyway? 90% of the people already know the answer and I am sure 99% dont follow the suggestions given here. For rest of the 1% you have google on computer and parents at home.
phullleeezzzzz…
That is a new thread idea. Open one in AV on this topic.
What makes you think I don’t 
:hinna: I’m just daqyanoosi I guess
^ Welcome to the gang sistaaa 
I've seen that here amongst Pakistani Americans, though rarely. There will be a small group of girls who wear short shorts/skirts, bathing suits, etc. They're also the most covered in masjids. There's a group like that everywhere. I don't know what to say about that. Part of me is like they know they're getting a lot of attention and people talk about them. Either they like that or they don't care. But it's their decision to dress like that, it's their life.
^what she said. Although I happen to know quite a few of them and they're good smart people. Dressing and all is their own business.
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I dont find it odd to see girls (and aunties for that matter) wear skirts and dresses here (the part of the US where I live). Probably because it has become more norm? But more commonly I see skirts and dresses being worn with leggings, tights, tall boots, or skinny jeans. I dont really see anything wrong with it. I wear outfits like this myself. In my opinion, the skirt/dress is not as tight as wearing jeans. I would think wearing jeans (which for females are always tight.. especially around the hip area) gets me more unnecessary attention.
And girls who wear knee legnth skirts with no leggings and such... well to each their own. I think there is a different between wearing a mini skirt and wearing a skirt that is to the knees or below the knees. Just like there is a difference between sleeveless v. half sleeve. But that is just me. Islamically its all haram. But we all know that and its not the point. :)
At the end of the day tho... If you can't tolerate the idea of your future wife wearing less conservative clothing...then its probably not a good match. There are lots of other girls in the world who you will be more compatible with. If you feel like its not a big deal and can overlook it... and so be it.
But I guess just understand that everyone is different and families norms can be different than your own. My own family is more conservative than my inlaws if you base this simply on clothing. But that doesn't mean that they are not good people. :)
they jump in happiness to tick one more sawaab on their list, get the larger appreciation and public applause 
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There is only ONE aunti I know of that Ive seen wearing short skirts.
Ive never worn them - forbidden in my house growing up - and havent really seen any aunties forgetting themselves either. But then again, we move in slightly conservative circles.
One thing I have noticed is the cleavage problem. I hate to say it but its always with the same group of women. They wont wear short skirts but you can see all the way down their shirts! Yuckkkk! I dont wanna see that! Whatever happened to some mystery?! Seriously, these girls Im distantly related to - I refuse to call them cousins - everytime I see them its like red alert, red alert! Their fathers are there, my father's there, my BILs are there, etc. Eh!
no seriously man !!
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I typically don't wear dresses. But I bought two dresses recently that come up to my knees, and they're honestly for very special occasions where I'm going to be with people who are like family. These people have seen me in my most ungroomed moments, as I work with them, and our work can be dirty. And I'm close with these people.
Otherwise, nope, I wouldn't wear it, but more out of respect to the religion. I think muslims are doing things far worse that are more likely to land them in hell, and yet they have no concerns about those things.
I'd rather marry a woman who wears knee length skirts, but gives charity, holds good values, and does good for humanity, over the girl who wears shalwaar kameez's but is very materialistic, is only interested in going to Pakistan every summer and making a 10,000 dollar wardrobe of shalwaar kameez's she can show off in the States at dawaats, and shouts at the beggar on the street in Pakistan who is asking for alms.
You take your pick. Who would you rather have raising your kids?
Try to get to know a person, before you judge them for superficial reasons. You may marry the perfect person that way.
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^ :k:
Why do people feel the need to preach islam at every oppurtunity? Im sure everyone has a Quran in their home. Im sure majority *of people know the rights and wrongs. Whats the need in giving us islamic lessons when people already know the basic points?! Life? Needed? *quickly!** Ameen!
But you do tend to find those that believe they are dressing islamically.
Why do people feel the need to preach islam at every oppurtunity? Im sure everyone has a Quran in their home. Im sure majority *of people know the rights and wrongs. Whats the need in giving us islamic lessons when people already know the basic points?! Life? Needed? *quickly!** Ameen!
Because Islam mandates, in Quran, to all the follower to promote the good and work to eradicate the bad. Islam is a way of life it is not confined to standing on musala and saying 5 times of namaz and you are done. Islam gives you a complete framework and touches every aspect of your life.
Dress code has been mandated in Quran , which is the ultimate code of conduct for a Muslim.
If I see a Muslim breaking that code of conduct it is my duty to let them know , assuming they do not know , once I have told them and they do not care , I would go my own marry way.
That being said Islam does not mean to make your life difficult and wants you to enjoy the bounties of Allah. You are allowed to wear or not wear whatever you like or do not like in the privacy of your home. Public display of your body parts which are supposed to be covered is not allowed in Islam and all Muslims are bound to honor that code.
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As with a number of other posters - skirts are not and were not permitted clothing in my family. You see plenty of pakistani girls wearing mini skirts/short dresses with tights these days, but I personally feel its not far off from wearing a skirt without tights as you're legs and shape of your legs is still on display.
I have seen a lot of pakistani girls doing it though (in Mcr too) but it's their choice and if they're happy to dress that way then that's up to them.
Another thing I don't understand is why people don't feel that modesty extends to the shoes that girls wear, because some girls wear those big nasty buckled hooker style shoes which I just find ugly!
Another common thing is girls in hijabs wearing super skinny jeans/jeggings and super tight tops/cardys. Great(!) I have a relative who used to wear hijab, and when we had this discussion on hijabis in tight clothing she somehow came to the conclusion that just because a hijabi wears really tight clothes doesn't reflect on how strong her Deen is. Yeh. Sure.
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From Allah swt, u just got a sawaab on ur list… from some GS users u just got a few curse words 
I couldn’t have said it better myself.
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Najeeb786....trust in Allh...you will find a better girl. And no, it is not normal for a Pakistani to go around wearing a skirt. Besharam behaya larki.
It annoys me so much seeing Muslim women dress like that. Especially the ones who come in front of their baap like that.
Najeeb786....trust in Allh...you will find a better girl. And no, it is not normal for a Pakistani to go around wearing a skirt. Besharam behaya larki.
It annoys me so much seeing Muslim women dress like that. Especially the ones who come in front of their baap like that.
I think these days it's too difficult finding somebody right for yourself, one always talks about how both personalities should be compatible to one another and to ignore superficial aspects of the person such as their dress but as Muslims that it is the one aspect you will notice straight away.
Personally if my potential partner were to dress in a skirt I would look elsewhere regardless of her inner beauty, I wouldn't be able to accept it and as far as I'm aware neither would any other family that I've encountered.
But I suppose it depends upon the religiousness of the family. Although as Mitch stated earlier that we have a duty to let these type of people know, in reality most are already aware of what they do think you're 'extreme' in your views.
Najeeb786....trust in Allh...you will find a better girl. And no, it is not normal for a Pakistani to go around wearing a skirt. Besharam behaya larki.
It annoys me so much seeing Muslim women dress like that. Especially the ones who come in front of their baap like that.
agreed. she should not go aorund wearing a skirt like that. but it's her choice no? she will have to face the consequences after all? not the rest of the nation. not those who go around shoving religion down other peoples throats at every opportunity.
it is as behaya for a good, decent, honest girl to go around wearing a short skirt and baring her legs as it is for a full on hijabi woman to go around lying, [edit], being super proud and egoistic, not caring, uing bad words and all that.
the problem is, we can see a girl in a marketplace, for e.g., with bare legs. but we can't really spot a bad girl (with covered legs) in that same crowd.