Women and Sex

[sweetpip]

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@Larki-NY

However, the thing about going down ....... I dunno, for some women it's tough and same for guys. Have you seen the film, "The Brothers", it's hillarious, do watch it :)

I think i'll definately watch it :D who acts in it (just wondering because i've never heard of it)

[Ex-Guppan]

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@sweetpip

I think i'll definately watch it :D who acts in it (just wondering because i've never heard of it)

The cast is not very familiar, at least I don't remember names but have seen most characters around in other movies. But it's a hillarious movie. I have amy own copy :). It's about four friends and their wives/gal frnds. Rest, watch in the movie :DDon't forget to watch the un-edited scenes in the end. The movie is available from any Walmart.

[K4plan]

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@AnGeL EyEs

what if its not just about "u give it to me and i'll give it to u" what if he cant please her sexually or isnt able to perform? is she suppose to live sexually deprived for the rest of her life?

Yea, now you put it that way. It makes sense, if he can't perform then she has every right to ask for a divorce but sexual pleasure being a demand in Islam? Thats the first I've come accross.
Contraception is forbidden unless under specific circumstances which leaves us with the notion that sex is performed for offspring. Are we misinterpreting the holy Quran/hadees or are some ppl here reading up internet articles? Anyways I could be wrong but anyone with some valid evidence.. please educate me also.
If my partner doesn't fullfill my sexual fantasies, I guess I can always get rid of him/her and move onto another and then another and another.

Lol this reminds me of those stupid contract marriages the shiites come out with for use in this day and age.

[K4plan]

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@LegallyBrown

If a man can divorce a woman on the grounds that she cannot have kids then IMO a woman can very publicly divorce a man for not satisfying her in the bedroom.

I don't understand how the both relate?

IF he can't give her kids then yes she divorces him but errmmm what has satisfying got to do with it... what about if a woman can't satisfy her man? Times have changed ya know, its not all upto men anymore.

[Ex-Guppan]

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^^ Sexual fantasies?? hmmmmmm..... not sure abt that? Is there a line between natural and unnatural acts? Or is it all okay (just being Devil's advocate :D)

[Sara516]

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@K4plan

I don't understand how the both relate?

IF he can't give her kids then yes she divorces him but errmmm what has satisfying got to do with it... what about if a woman can't satisfy her man? Times have changed ya know, its not all upto men anymore.

Because jsut as a man has a right to have his own children (a reason why he may marry another woman), a wife has a right to sxual satisfaction from her husband (a reason she may divorce him).

I've never heard of birth control being forbidden; as far as I know, the only things that are forbidden are vasectemies and voluntary non-lifethreatening sterilization, becasue they are permanent.

[sweetpip]

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@Larki-NY

^^ Sexual fantasies?? hmmmmmm..... not sure abt that? Is there a line between natural and unnatural acts? Or is it all okay (just being Devil's advocate :D)

as long as its not bordering on extermism or unhealthy acts...no nothin wrong with it!

[K4plan]

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@Lajawab

I am surprised you even consider this an option...Unless sex is more important than happiness and a home, most women from even a moderately good upbringing would rather die of shame...

Unless the lady happened to be a shameless nymphomaniac...

Yea, thing is... the old times were different to this day and age. Now it's all about filling our own emotional/physical needs before anyone elses. Unfortunately its so true and as you can see how every single word in our holy books are being interpreted to things that fit into our way of life in 'this day and age'.. everything is broken down into finer detail.. just like someone said in one of the posts above... the hadees 'guides' men to 'caress, tease women before engaging in sexual intercourse', now apparently anyone who doesn't obide by it has given us enuff ground to ask for divorce. LOL.

[K4plan]

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@Sara516

Because jsut as a man has a right to have his own children (a reason why he may marry another woman), a wife has a right to sxual satisfaction from her husband (a reason she may divorce him).

I've never heard of birth control being forbidden; as far as I know, the only things that are forbidden are vasectemies and voluntary non-lifethreatening sterilization, becasue they are permanent.

umm actually the 2 don't relate to each other at all. If the man can't have children, then this gives the wife every right to demand divorce too and likewise.

Sexual satisfaction is running on a different track. I'd rather someone provided us with evidence here as this is something I'd like to grasp on too but its still funny how every woman here given the opportunity has decided to stand up for her 'right' as a liberal woman instead.

Birth control = killing sperm = murder. lol.

[TeraDulha]

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this reminds me of a women studies class i took...ahhhhhhh the memories of male bashing...and the glare women gave u when u spoke u mind...

[Sara516]

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@K4plan

umm actually the 2 don't relate to each other at all. If the man can't have children, then this gives the wife every right to demand divorce too and likewise. Sexual satisfaction is running on a different track. I'd rather someone provided us with evidence here as this is something I'd like to grasp on too but its still funny how every woman here given the opportunity has decided to stand up for her 'right' as a liberal woman instead.

Birth control = killing sperm = murder. lol.

I dunno wat birth control ure talking abt but most birth control lets the sperm live, they just dont let em reach their destination lol

[sweetpip]

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@K4plan

Birth control = killing sperm = murder. lol.

A big fat no

The contraception pill does not kill the sperm.

It stops the female from ovulating (‘producing an egg’) each month. And if you don’t ovulate, you can’t get pregnant.

In addition, it makes it more difficult for sperm to get through. Also, they make the lining of your womb thinner, so that it is less receptive to an egg.

[K4plan]

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@Sara516

I dunno wat birth control ure talking abt but most birth control lets the sperm live, they just dont let em reach their destination lol

lol

[PhatBalongri]

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I would hope that the couple try to work things out, but then again you cant MAKE a man care for you, either he does either he doesnt. If you can not then I think its enough reason to divorce. You are better off alone than unhappy.

[Iconoclast]

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@LegallyBrown

Im talking bout desires. Roleplay. Whatever way the woman wants.

What if the man is Wham Bam Thanku Mam kinda guy.

What if he refuses to go down on the woman but demands oral every night himself.

Lacking creativity and spunk in the bedroom

A lawyer friend of mine told me of a real divorce case in Pakistan.

A woman filed of divorce on grounds of not being sexually satisfied by the husband. In the court judge asked the woman why she wants divorce and she said

" Wo meeri bharaai (satisfy) nahi ker sakta"

Judge asked how many years she was married, 5 it turns out, how many children she has, 3 she replies. The judge said:

"Bibi agar abhi tak teeri bharai(satisfaction) nahin hoi, to koi teeri bharai nahin ker sakta"

and he dismissed the case.

But i think this judge needs more input from females like you to better understand "bharai".

[Fret_Wizard]

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@Sara516

if a guy can divorce his wife or marry another woman coz she can’t have kids, well she has every right to divorce her hubby coz he can’t satisfy her. He has every right to his own children and she has every right to sexual satisfaction.

If a man can divorce his wife for her inability to have children, then the woman can divorce the man because he’s shooting blanks. That’s called even. The above is not.

[Afridi786]

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No way a woman divorces her husband just because of their sex life, theres always other factors at play, besides if u love someone sex doesnt really mean that much.

N I think u can divorce for any idiotic reason, it doesnt really matter why.

[Naughty_by_Nature]

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God...there are some real clowns here...im hearing nonsense like sex shouldnt matter if you love each other blah blah...

Sex is an important part of any relationship to most...If sex isnt important to you then thats your decision but dont start telling people that sex shouldnt be important to them...

We all have instincts which need to be fulfilled...and a husband and wife should do that together...if shes not happy then she should leave...if he cant get it up and she is a horny girl she shouldnt have to deal with that...and if hes selfish she shouldnt have to deal with that either...

If he loves you then he should try and satisfy you...he will gain pleasure from satisfying you...im in wham bam in a marriage then thats worrying...your only wham bam with girls you dont care about...so if he cares then he'll want to make you happy...

[Afridi786]

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I meant that if they love each other, and if he tries and isn't capable of satisfying her, then I don't think a decent woman would divorce him for it. Since when has everything been based on sex.

[lussi]

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but but..what if the guy has a really good sense of humour, is in touch with his sensitive side, treats the wife as a queen, can take long walks on the beach holding hands, can't help but shed tears at a faboulous sunset..i mean surely then even if he can't sexually satisfy the wife...the girl would still stick with him? no? or have i totally misread the women kind?