My brother got married couple of years ago to my SIL. He is wonderful guy (educated, career) and very good provider. He has mashalah very nice house. He got laid off so he started to run his own business. Professional Carpet Cleaning Business to be precise just few months ago. Now he has been looking for job in his own IT career but recently his business established very well just within few months. To the point, he is earning MORE than what he averagely used to make.
Now my SIL telling him to leave carpet business because it is not “respectable” job. And she would leave him. He tried to make her understand that he is actively looking however, his business got him very busy atm. He told her to be thankful for what she has and involved his parents, her parents. But no luck. She taunts him everyday. He sent her for vacation with her girlfriends to europe trip and my brother didn’t shy away from paying all her expenses. (Though when my brother was working he couldn’t afford to send her of to
We are all very pareshan for him. What should we all do?
P.S * He used to do carpet cleaning in his university times to payoff his education. And even after graduation he did this on part time basis.*
You all should support him, the fact that he has a successful business where is immune from company layoffs and outsourcing is a good thing. I understand that he may not want to do this as a career, so he can build it up, hire people and then go in his field and pick company and projects that he likes to do, maybe as a consultant/contractor/freelancer rather than as an employee. That will help him build his skill set faster as well.
as far as she goes..tell her she is free to go as long as she does not expect any spousal support from his "not respectable" business
Well...for what it seems like your brother seems to like for what he does for business. He needs all the support from you guys and his wife should be his partner. Anyway..i don't know your SIL well yo..but she sounds like total biatch. And i tell ya some women can be nashukrii. What can ya do eh..
Any kind of hard and honest work is respectable. His wife should really respect that her husband is working so hard to provide for her. And if it bothers he so much she shouldn't be using her husbands "unrespectable money" for trips to europe either. At the same time though i think we should clarify that not all women are nashukarpan!
I hope she realises how lucky she is to have a husband like your brother.
That's very stupid of your SIL. Your bro should make her do the carpet cleaning on weekends and also make her watch Ser Alan Sugar's Apprentice. I'm serious and believe me this post about your SIL has made me very angry.
That's very stupid of your SIL. Your bro should make her do the carpet cleaning on weekends and also make her watch Ser Alan Sugar's Apprentice. I'm serious and believe me this post about your SIL has made me very angry.
honestly. She doesn't understand how it is like to earn out there and maintain good balance. And it's not like my brother does only carpet cleaning. At the moment he is free-lancer working for IBM on part time basis too. There is so much in his plate that he does. I tried talking to SIL and she went all complainting to my brother that i was rude with her. lol.
My brother hates the idea of divorce. And he loves her alot. I mean i was telling my brother to workout with her in every possible way. May be, show bit more patience. Hope she will understand someday.
pakiQueen: I'm curious....what does the SIL's parents say about your brother doing the carpet cleaning business? Do they agree with their daughter's view?
honestly. She doesn't understand how it is like to earn out there and maintain good balance. And it's not like my brother does only carpet cleaning. At the moment he is free-lancer working for IBM on part time basis too. There is so much in his plate that he does. I tried talking to SIL and she went all complainting to my brother that i was rude with her. lol.
She needs to open her eyes. I hate people who think everyone should be either a doctor or an engineer. Every halal profession is respectable and your SIL needs to learn to feel honoured in your bro's hard work.
pakiQueen: I'm curious....what does the SIL's parents say about your brother doing the carpet cleaning business? Do they agree with their daughter's view?
They don't care because their daughter is well taken care. We all give her respect that she deserves. So this is what her parents has to say to her: "
"You are married to him and you suppose to support him. If he is successful in the business then support him. Also people will talk let them who cares. He is not earning money non-halal way. He is doing best to provide for you while having no permanent job atm."
Her response: No, this is not what i expected in marriage. And my friends talk that he is so educated and why is he doing this.