Again, irrelevant. Violence does happen. It’s a fact.
If that’s the case, a man hitting a woman, or a woman hitting a man, should elicit the same reaction. If the aggressor was provoked, the provocateur did deserve it to some measure, and the onus is on them, not the person who snapped, to deescalate.
Why not go off on the person who did the provoking instead of the person who snapped?