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Exactly that's what I had said! Piss off both sides and parents (mum especially) will be heart broken ! :(
^ UR SOOO WISE AISHA, HUN!! 
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LOL whatever :p We both are wise and intelligent, deal? :D
Don't elope but also don't give up. Persistence is the key. Ask the guy to keep trying to convince his mom, get support from other elders in the family first and keep trying. Don't give up so quickly.
i will second it.
if you are grown-up and have sufficient education then ask ALLAH SWT to make you use that knowledge wisely. and explain your parents your commitment, using coherent and concise arguments. Be Genuine, inshaALLAH parents will understand. But dont just Give up. we are made for these test. ALLAH SWT asks us to ask him, cuz He has all the powers. if you really believe he is the one!...pray and pray Hard! if not in this world then inshaALLH in eternal world you will be justly rewarded.
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dont give up on the person you love. try to convince his family or have him do so. if they dont come around, try to convince your parents to give it a go without his parents and stress how much you need their approval but that their lack of approval isnt the end all to the relationship.
just like many people have seen couples defy parents and marry only to see dismal marriages, i have also seen girls who give up their love and let their parents arrange them with someone else only to have them hate their lives and always wonder what if.
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that will upset both families, even though you fully have the right to choose your partner
I suggest like many before me have, to be persistent with them, inshAllah all will go well
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Don't rush in to marriage like this. **
These matters are not entirely matter of hearts.
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Wait till at least three of four parents agree. Especially his mother. If his mother is adamant and not approving this will create problems for you down the road.
You will be taking risk of putting all faith on him and what if he turns out to be mommy's boy or starts feeling guilty?
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Why don't your parents like the guy or his parents? I need to know before I can give you my input... cause believe me " dour key dhol always suhany" if his parents are chechory, greedy type then your life is going to be a living hell.. perhaps your parents can sense that but you can't due to the fact you are in love with him or what not.. so please do tell us what is the main reason for both parents to not liking each other?
I have already mentioned it that his mom wants him to marry a girl of her choice,and my parents aren't agreeing because his mom isn't,and his father is no more in the world,so he has only his mom.
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Lets say u elope, further down the line your married life settles into something more mundane, you have an argument. During this time you are not eachother's favourite people. He runs off to mummy dearest, saying "Oh Ma, if only I had listened to you, your choice would have been better". Ma will say, "Oh my beta, if only u had listened to me, oh how devastated I was when u deserted me just bcos she made u do it..." etc, etc, laying on the guilt trip. He will feel terrible about what he did to his single mother and then resent you for it.
OK, u may think I'm exaggerating somewhat, but trust me, I have seen this happen and it ain't pretty.
BTW, I don't advise u to give up on eachother, as others have mentioned, persist in making her change her mind or at least get both your parents on board.
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Because he has been trying to convince her for the last almost 2 years,but all in vain,so,there isn't any chances that she will.
Hello everyone, there's a problem.I and this guy know each other for the last 2 years,and we want to get married to each other,but the problem is our parents,especially his mom doesn't approve of this,because she wants him to get married to someone of her choice.After having tried many a times,she still doesn't approve.Since his mom isn't agreeing so that's why my parents don't approve of this as well.Now he tells me that we both should get married without parents' approval?Will that be right?Should that be done? What would you people advice?
Thanks in advance
you should not get married without your parents approval.. think of your parents, people will humiliate them.. and this will break them.. leave your matter up to ALLAH.. if this is good for you.. you will gain what u want.. if this is not.. then be patient..
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^ So for the time being,i should let go of him?
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You know what I think girlie is that instead of asking us if you should let go of him or not, you should make the decision yourself. Later you won't have an excuse and say "oh it was because of that advice people gave me on GS that I did this but if I had stayed with him maybe I could have been more happier or something"
Trust me and I am talking from experience here that even leaving someone is hard and sometimes it can take months. So either way it is going to hurt, it is up to you to think on it.
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No Aisha i won't think that :)
If he has been trying already for the past 2 year, he should continue, after all his mum will notice that in 2 years he hasnt changed his mind, she may be thinking oh he's young doesnt really know whats good for him, give him a couple of years to grow up etc, she will give in if she sees no hope of him changing his mind.
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Mian Biwi RaazI, KiyA KarrE GA QazI?
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:hinna:
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dont sigh.. take your time.. and leave up to ALLAH SWT
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A guy has to be better worth all of this.. and since most guys are not, it's not recommended!