Withholding sex from your spouse

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LOLz

Time for some :mirch:

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Actually the same thing applies for both men and women. Everyone always blasts that hadith everywhere, but I have been told that it works both ways. If a man refuses his wife, he gets the same "punishment" as when a woman refuses a man. However at the same time, the husband (or wife) should be sensitive to their spouses feelings. If they are not feeling well (genuinely), then they should respect that, and not try to make them uncomfortable.

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I think its a bad practice all around but I do know girls who do this to punish their men.

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Some people might actually withold sex to punish their spouse. And other times it's not a matter of witholding or a manipulation strategy...but rather they just don't feel like engaging in an intimate act when there are feelings of anger/resentment/stress. It's hard to have an intimate attidue toward another person when you're upset with them. Exhaustion and medical reasons may also be factors. It requires understanding and compromise from both parties.

If sex is being held for manipulative reasons, how long would such a strategy last? It would cause feelings of rejection in one partner, leading to resentment, and more serious consequences such as the breakdown of the marriage, infidelity, etc.

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But sex is the need of the human body and has less to do with intimate feelings AFTER MARRIAGE..thats what i have heard...

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^ I think it has MORE to do with intimate feelings after marriage. He is your partner and being with him should be a result of love and affection for him.

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what if there are problems in the marriage either the husband or wife isn't being fair and eventually there's no love between them from all the fights and arguments/abuse. I always wondered how they feel any attraction for each other after years of a tumultuous marriage.

oh fun! can't wait

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She should flip a coin. Head, she u know...... Tails, she keeps quiet and continues to cross her fingers, toes, and eyes (cross anything).

Yes, that is just what she should do.

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That is a myth which exists only on Mars or in the brains of some 'enlightened', 'progressive' and 'moderate' women.

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LMAO .... haha seriously i can't stop laughin haha

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Im sure in some situations, it might end up leading to marital rape...when people are abusive, mean or cruel to each other. Its not right to force someone no matter how revved up you might be.

However, denying your husband or wife intimacy repeatedly is IMHO very wrong. They're human, have needs and are doing the right thing by approaching their spouse. When you constantly tell them you have a headache (be it man or woman)...you should not be surprised when a spouse cheats.

Its not excusable...but it does happen.

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LMAO

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Anyone noticed how we desis think that only men need sex?

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oh such bull right? well let me be the first to say that that is totally and utterly false. I don’t know why desis think in such a way, as if women are totally robots who have no sexual feelings what so ever. it’s just that men can be more vocal and get away with it and if a woman says something remotely sexual all hell breaks loose. and even women think this way about other women, we are supposed to be the ones who give the sex and the men only are the ones that want it. :rolleyes:

sigh just giving your comment the much needed support it deserves:)

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^ Its not.......common........for a woman to be vocal about her needs

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No desi really thinks women have no needs. Women are more likely to withhold sex though.

Men becharay Ko To Bahana Chahiye Sex Ka. Why should he wihhold something he gets so little chance on anyway? :hehe:

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actually i have an example where the hubby told his wife the very first day that he isnt interested in his wife at all and she was his parent's choice and not his..he abuses her physically and mentally and still she is pregnant..and still he tortures her all the time..

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If Nt Paid Will Attract Fine too :D

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Just remembering a joke but can't tell here. But the end result is this Man always win :p

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I can imagine witholding if one is mad/angry/upset... :) but this should not take too long, same goes for arguments which are not solved for a long time..

i dont know how common it is, but im sure that women can be vocal about it....

And biologically men are more forthcoming at this.