Re: With no offense to women
MatineeSiren,
i agree with you.
what i was pointing out was that be it a liberal culture like all western countries, or a name sake strict culture like in SA, women are literally not able to work nor move alone in driving, there are layers upon layers of exploitation of women's ability to be autonomous.
i will be the first young female feminist who will shake up any woman who deliberately exposes her self or chooses a life of indignity.
i am not of the mind set like you that in order to gain rights, women must become men - NO. that is in fact the counter productive result which any right minded feminist will denounce and fight against.
God equipped us with the ability to have a child, including the male child.
so i find it hard to believe that same men, who women give birth to,
become the oppressors.
is it their nature, is it the social conditioning?
is it that good men, are afraid of bad men?
is it that bad men attract bad women ?
is it the culture and unjust traditions that none of the generational idiots ever woke up to break?
is it a sense of aloof ness, because what ever goes, is discounted as ' i see no evil, hear no evil'?
is every man and every woman so selfish that seeing suffering of others does not at all prick their conscience?
is is that bad women instigate and refresh the cycle of oppression of good women?
is it that bad women and bad men, comply in their vicious plans to destroy happy marriages of wed couples, by seducing them into adultery
?
and the gamut goes on and on....
the point is what can women do to educate other women to not suffer in silence, to not be victims of domestic violence, to feel empowered to raise good men, who know how to respect women
and make women comfortable in learning and seeking knowledge and in being strong and proactive equal partners in the social, economic, civic and spiritual spheres of a society.
at the end, who would not want to come home to a husband or a wife, to seek comfort and gain strength in the companion's presence and fortitude of resilient spirit.
issue for cultural and religious feminism, today is as following - that men as always, and now women too, to some extent have become and are becoming ever more lustful and that is short lived, and actually leave them with diseases and no long term solace.
how can we prevent mis interpretation of fighting for women's rights, from getting labeled that feminism is about mere sexual liberation. and religiously as well as biologically, women's sexual desires, within a legal wedlock are not deniable by anyone, in fact a woman can leave a man, if she finds him discomfort able.
if any thing, to fail men, women must take control of men, by completely making it clear by actions, thoughts and words, that no man, as na mherem can dare to come within an arm's distance from them. and this, in words, well meant - must suffice.
only then, feminism will have achieved what it set out to obtain.
distribution of domestic labor, and allowing compassion in wed lock, deciding about various social and even universal aspects of life in general - will come second.
first the pact has to be contracted on fair terms.
other issues for another time and discussion.
Men are not only responsible for women's troubles. Women are as well, because we allow this to happen.
These things--trafficking, violence, rape, etc, would not be possible if society at large were not so accepting of them. Just look at the laws of the land, and you'll see how the majority of people feel about such atrocities. In America, domestic violence is listed as a misdemeanor, whilst smoking marijuana, is a federal offence. Where are our priorities?
When men are taught not to respect women, they will abuse them. When women are taught that our men deserve more respect than us, then we allow the abuse to continue. It's a mentality that ultimately helps no one, because women remain opressed, and men remain selfish and ignornant of their own falsehoods.
This society is seeped in hedonism. Can you blame anyone who indulges in it? We're a product of our environment, and if no one has ever seen anything different, how would they know to change? Who would tell them to change? People who demand sexual morality, and true equality between the sexes are considered fringe groups.
Don't get me wrong, I'm a true feminist. But that doesn't mean I ignore obvious differences between men and women. Equal, but not the same. The current role of feminiism at large in the USA now, is to strip each person of their respective gender, and to impose a new, androgenous gender. This not only plays into the hands of greedy men who would exploit at will, it again harms our women because to be a woman, you would be spitting in the face of "femininism." The current role of feminism is to turn our women into men, and that is obviously not what feminism itself seeks to do. So when you see these promiscuous women, they're not sexually liberated, nor are they empowered. They are only servicing men who want them to believe in this delusion. Men, as well as women, are caught up in the same farce.