wining an argument is more important

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… than winning friendship. Why?

And it happens so often on GS.

Do you work on winning friendship or winning an argument?

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1- no
2- yes

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Re: wining an argument is more important

i stop the moment it dawns on me that this argument is NOT gonna lead to anywhere and is now more of an 'argument for the sake of argument'...wisdom dictates to recognize this crucial moment. apnii 'izzat apne haath...bad-tameeii aur badmazgii se bahtar hai k ham Khush iKhlaaqii se is sa'ii-e-laa_haasil se gurez kareN.

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I respect my friends...sometimes we do argument but I never want to win the argument I just want to make clear what I'm trying to saying.

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wining an argument is more important

No arguments

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I Try my best to avoid arguments, its always dicussion in healthy way :blush: well even if its turning into argument or something messy i just leave

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I dont argue

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Friends? I dont have many...

Arguements... all the time...

I guess I need to reform a bit more...

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I dnt argue but i do get involved in healthy discussions.

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franship. but it's a two-way street.

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no i dont argue. :)

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Haw hai, I have always thought reading & re-reading YOUR own reply and waiting/whistling/baiting for reponses to YOUR own reply is the mantra on GS.

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^ I though that too but then again I am merely a passer by sometimes.

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While friendship is more important than winning an argument, I also don't believe in blindly agreeing to or conceding to a point or perspective I don't agree with.

I will end the "discussion" with a "we should agree to disagree" instead of beating the issue to death. I respect the other person's right to hold on to their own perspective and disagree with me and I expect the same in return.

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Re: wining an argument is more important

In virtual environments most people aren't looking to form lasting bonds with each other (barring that one attractive guppy) so online chit chat becomes a form of mental exercise. What's 'argumentative' to one person may be regular banter to another. I have lawyer friends who bond with debate. (They also happen to be a-holes, but yeah).

Boils down to how significant the argument is. If someone's being a racist douche for instance, why would I be interested in winning their frandship when I can throw barbs instead.

Posse dynamics here are something else. If a close friend/crush expresses retarded opinions, people tend to be conspicuously silent. It's true, frandship often involves quashing integrity.

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neither.

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I think I would be a better person - if I ignored things more ...

Fighting for truth is better than not fighting for truth, but not fighting for truth is better than hurting someone's feeling, but hurting someone's feeling is better than allowing a fitnah to develop, and allowing a fitnah to develop is better than creating the fitnah ...

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^ How do you know you are fighting for the truth Psyah? Your truth is just your perspective and the other party may not see it that way.

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That is what I meant when I said that 'it happens so often on GS'.

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You don't know ... But your intent has to be honest and consistent with the 'truth' you believe to be TRUE. This means be sincere ... And through sincerity one can alter their idea of 'truth' to edge closer to TRUTH, but without sincerity it is merely the ego ... Which may actually by accident be on truth ...