Re: Will you settle?
y u no believe that gupshup can attract new posters?
u ain't behaving like a new one......... so y u dodge the question?
Re: Will you settle?
u ain't behaving like a new one......... so y u dodge the question?
Uh there is a code of conduct for new posters? How're they supposed to behave, eyes downcast and jee jeeing every post?
Re: Will you settle?
^ Don't forget the chai trolley. Of course, this is assuming you've already Skype'd in the nude.
Re: Will you settle?
^ Don't forget the chai trolley. Of course, this is assuming you've already Skype'd in the nude.
Hmm...not sure if I have signed up at the right place? This is not the desi version of plenty of fish, is it?
Re: Will you settle?
nope. marriage is seriously not THE most important event in one's life. it's important and that's y i will only marry when i feel like it.
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I do not like the word "settle" especially when it comes to marriage. It unsettles me. I don't think my requirements are unreasonable. If my heart isn't into it, I won't go for it.
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I personally think you never marry the one. after marriage you are pitted in situations with your spouse that you could never face whilst not married. You learn things about them, and ofcourse they change.
I dont mean change in a bad way, just change brings about change. It takes time, effort, patience and love AFTER MARRIAGE (from both parties) to become the one for the other person.
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so what makes people think their ''requirements are not that high/unreasonable'' ???
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so what makes people think their ''requirements are not that high/unreasonable'' ???
And that is the million dollar question isn't it?
But why don't you answer a question - what do you think is reasonable for a woman to expect in terms of:
1) Education
2) Religion/Religious practice
3) Career/stability
4) Physical attractiveness
5) Cultural similarities
Answer as less than or more than her.
Re: Will you settle?
And that is the million dollar question isn't it?
But why don't you answer a question - what do you think is reasonable for a woman to expect in terms of:
1) Education 2) Religion/Religious practice 3) Career/stability 4) Physical attractiveness 5) Cultural similarities
Answer as less than or more than her.
Why ask a man, he'd say as long as the man has a pulse he should be desireable!
Re: Will you settle?
These days finding someone with a normal pulse can be hard!
Some of these guys are like walking heart attacks - in their 30’s, obese, already diabetic and hiding it during the rishtaa parade. My cousin married this guy who within 2 years had his first heart attack - she’s been on him since to slim down. I have a BMI of a solid 25, and I’m trying to BRING THAT DOWN, mind you , and he’s giving me advice on how to eat a healthier breakfast.
Re: Will you settle?
And that is the million dollar question isn't it?
But why don't you answer a question - what do you think is reasonable for a woman to expect in terms of:
1) Education 2) Religion/Religious practice 3) Career/stability 4) Physical attractiveness 5) Cultural similarities
Answer as less than or more than her.
all these traits are essential....... the point is.......how much of these traits one is after...
on a scale of 1 to 5........if u want 5 on all..... u can't say your expectations are not high......
you will have to compromise on some of those......
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You better because 25 IS overweight
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yah 25 is overweight isn’t it? perhaps you should reconsider what the guy said.
how tall are you?
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If I am looking for:
1) Education - at least equivalent to my education
2) Religion/Religious practice - we don't get to know how religious a person is but at least equavalent to a girl, (for me no drinking, no pre-marital sex is a must, I do pray but I am ok with a guy who doesn't pray since he will change himself if I am able to positively influence him
3) Career/stability -** At least earning as much as I am earning per month*, **although a husband should be earning more so that he can support the family when the wife is unable to work. *
4) Physical attractiveness - at least equivalent to my height, (I am ok with bald, over weight, dark complexion etc if the guy is a good human being generally and posses other traits). I am even not being fussy on guy's age.
5) Cultural similarities - at least from Pakistan and sunni muslim
Do you think my demands are really high?
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I will only marry someone who has seashells like me
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Haha, that’s very cute…
p.s NOT :nono:
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all these traits are essential....... the point is.......how much of these traits one is after...
on a scale of 1 to 5........if u want 5 on all..... u can't say your expectations are not high...... you will have to compromise on some of those......
Most girls expect their partner to be the same or better on some criteria and slightly lower on other criteria.
Yet the reality is they tend to get introduced to guys who are less on all 5 counts and then told that their expectations are too high when they want some who is their equal on at least some counts.
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Most girls expect their partner to be the same or better on some criteria and slightly lower on other criteria.
Yet the reality is they tend to get introduced to guys who are less on all 5 counts and then told that their expectations are too high when they want some who is their equal on at least some counts.
I didn't settle, and u shudnt IMO. Marriage is for a very long time and u shudnt be spending it being miserable and with regrets
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I did not have any "Must Have" list (except for education) instead I had a "Good to Have" list.
With that, believe me life is good
PS: Luckily when we got introduced, many of the items in my Good-To-Have list were checked too